I'm about to share my personal experience. I hope you can learn from my mistakes and be all the wiser!
- Don’t keep changing your mind in an attempt to change outcomes or allow TRIGGERS to guide your choices
- Don’t assume demanding
loyalty to marriage vows will keep your marriage together (She is wired to be a mirror that reflects what it feels like to partake in your life and to follow those feelings)
- Avoid holding out for her if she’s said, “I’m done".
I know all too well what it's like to love a woman who no longer wants to be with you.
In my early days, I tried to use what I thought was a logical approach to attract a girl who clearly didn't love me.
I believed that if I saved myself for her by not dating anyone else, she would see me as her most true, committed, loyal lover compared to other men.
In my imagined fairytale, she would become my dream wife by falling in love with my devotion and abstinence from other women.
I demonstrated these traits to her by not dating any other girls for YEARS while she was dating
other guys and seemingly not interested in me.
Despite her full knowledge of my interest, my years of remaining available for her never seduced her.
Even after my divorce, I waited
a few years to date.
My reason was to work on my loneliness without feminine support and to grieve the loss of my marriage.
But if I'm honest, I also hoped my wife would come running back and I would still
be available for her.
Over the last few years of doing men's work, I've come to terms with a startling reality.
Women rarely are re-attracted to men who hold out for her after she's said, “I’m done”.
The, “I’m done” stage is a very specific time in a relationship where 95% of marriage advise will backfire.
Once she’s reached the, “I’m done” stage, It doesn’t matter how clearly your ask for what you want or how much therapy you try to drag her to.
Doing so communicates that you don’t respect her choice and that
you don’t have her best interest in mind.
I've seen more of my clients save their marriage in the “I’m done” stage by letting her go and moving on than by waiting around like a loyal puppy.
I've even seen this in my dating life.
Once you have a girlfriend, two more women almost always start chasing you.
When you're solo
with no girlfriend, you tend to go unnoticed by the ladies.
The reason is simple: How we tend to act when love and affection is low isn’t attractive.
I’m not talking about sex.
We are starving ourselves of love and affection when we are not going out into nature, connecting with feminine, experiences we love, taking ourselves on dates, or living our best life.
Starving yourself of love and affection for the sake of fidelity to your runaway wife might make your ex-wife feel sorry for you, but feeling sorry for you is not what attracts mature women to
men.
Being The Kind Of Man Women Chase
When we see women pursue a man who appears to be solo, it's usually because he’s confidently leading a life of FREEDOM.
He's doing whatever he wants, whenever he wants, however he wants.
He doesn't hold back because of fear.
He pushes the limits of
what he can create in this life where other people would hesitate.
These are the guys we see solo sail the Pacific, get in a position of leadership, or stand for a cause while everyone else plays it safe.
The lesson is
clear.
Sitting at home waiting for our runaway wife to come back NEVER reattracts her.
Waiting is like getting our boat stuck on a sandbar.
She wants to be on a boat that’s going somewhere.
Our boat can get stuck long before divorce.
Being a martyr by enduring years without sex, weeks without meaningful conversation, or a job we hate also sinks our boat in the sand.
Sacrificing our amazing future for her is NOT how we create an amazing future with
her.
Being The Man Your Wife Would Have An Affair With
When a woman has an extra-marital affair, it's never with the man paying her bills, sharing her bed, or waiting for her at
home.
Yet what do we men tend to do when she pulls back and we want intimacy?
We try to spend MORE time with her, share MORE experiences with her, and talk about the relationship MORE with
her.
Less of those things equals more If you want to have a reoccurring “affair” with your wife.
Being the kind of man she would have an affair with means we are living our own fun, amazing life that happens even if she doesn’t join.
In order to be this kind of man, we must STOP seeing her moods or affection as having any meaning about our value, integrity, or
purpose.
Thinking we need her permission to live our best life puts our balls in her purse and makes it hard for her to respect us.
We need to formulate
our own script we operate by that makes us want to get out of bed every day and enjoy living even if she doesn't join us.
Avoiding her emotions or stonewalling doesn't produce the same results as getting off our butt and living our amazing life.
Being a MAN is your inherent role on this earth.
Yet what that means has become hazy in our modern times.
In the course, we will help you get back to the primal roots of what it means to be masculine so she can be feminine.
The magic of attraction between masculine and feminine has existed for all of eternity.
You can tap into this magic by learning how to stay in your own pole (and let her be in hers).
In our course, Mark and I teach you how to keep your eyes on your own gauges for self-respect and self-honor.
We help you clarify
fulfilling masculine standards you hold yourself to.
You become like a superhero who does the right thing knowing he couldn't live with himself if he didn’t.
