Stop Her Moods From Affecting You

Published: Tue, 06/22/21

Hey,

When men first reach out for help they are almost always feeling immense fear and pain...and they want to FIX that fear and pain right now!

All of the sudden your reality has changed and you don't like it.

You thought the story was going to go one way and now it has made a terrible turn.

She wants space. She wants freedom. She wants to feel connection. She wants to feel alive. She wants to find herself. She wants to escape some vaguely defined prison of anxiety and pressure.

And apparently it's all your fault.

This is when a man will want to talk with me about FIXING things - quickly.

He wants to fix himself, fix her and fix the marriage so the fear and pain will go away and everything can go back to being just like it was supposed to be.

When I explain the reality of what is in front of him he gets nervous.

I explain that he has no control over her feelings or her decisions.

I explain that the final outcome of his marriage is out of his hands.

And when I explain that the BEST CHANCE to fix anything is to start with fixing himself he will ask:

"Yeah but, what if I become a better man and she STILL leaves me?!"

Think about that for a minute.

What's going on in his head here?

This is the most common mistake men make when trying to save their marriage.

They want to know:

"What if this doesn't WORK?!"

What's the matter with this line of thought?

Watch this video for a deeper dive into why this is stinkin' thinkin'.

What if I Become a Better Man and She STILL Leaves Me?

The problem with the question, "What if it doesn't work?" is this.

When you decide to become more confident, calmer, clearer and grounded in your own sense of value and well-being...there is nothing that needs to "work".

That IS the work. The measure of your work is not in the outcome of your marriage, her desire for you or any other EXTERNAL result over which you have no control.

You decide to become this man because it's important to you no matter what.

And here's the other thing we don't get at first.

There is NO WAY the older version of you stands a chance of attracting her back into a relationship. Panic, pleading, promising, pressuring and demanding will only make things worse.

The reality is that your future is uncertain.

But you can create certainty in how you respond and how you choose to THINK about this whole process.

And your first thought needs to be:

"F*ck this. I'm going to become the very best, strongest and most attractive version of myself no matter what. I want that for me regardless of the outcome."

Now THAT attitude will serve you well. I guarantee it.

What happens when you read that? What do you FEEL right after saying that out loud?

It's liberating. The knot in your gut loosen just a touch.

It's empowering.

You begin to see that even in the discomfort of uncertainty and an unpredictable outcome in your marriage...you get to create your own certainty.

Are you ready yet to get clear, calm, confident and create a new version of you?

Do you want to feel the liberation from the fear and anxiety of uncertainty and living in limbo?

If so, let's go to the next step.

Join me and Dan in the GG2GM Live Men's Roundtable. We meet three times a month for live group coaching and we support you in a powerful invite only Facebook group. It's a $69 investment. Try it for one month - what have you got to lose?

Fill in our inquiry form for a free consultation call where Dan, I or one of our personally trained coaches will spend 90 minutes with you, understanding what you're going through and giving you some immediate ideas on how to change course toward what you WANT.

Lotta love brother,

Steve & Dan