How do you learn to not FEAR REJECTION?
One of the most important things I coach men through is their fear of rejection.
Why is this so important?
Because fear paralyzes us. Fear hurts. Rejection can feel like a kick in the nuts when you are thinking about it the wrong way.
But...rejection is almost never ALL ABOUT YOU.
When you begin to realize the reasons people say "No", you can easily detach from the rejection and not take it personally.
And when you learn the psychology behind a person's "No", you can feel empowered and emboldened to ask for what you want without fear.
Yes, even in the bedroom.
The result is a feeling of liberation from the anxiety, resentment and anger that often accompanies an outcome dependent mindset. Calm confidence takes the place of that knot in your gut. And that feels amazing.
This is EXACTLY what you will develop if you decide to do the work.
Most guys won't choose to do the work until the pain of living their life as they are now is GREATER than the fear of looking inside themselves.
I promise you...it's not that scary in there. Here's what one guy just sent me about that.
"I continue to find it interesting how (these concepts) become a reality for me. I see it as a process, first with agreeing with it, then thinking you are living it, then living it a little, then finally you realize a point of 100% of being it. It is such a drastic feeling, calm peaceful, lacking nervousness about it. The concept I have just 100% welcomed is that of
not having expectations or expected outcomes. So interesting how the blast of clarity comes right through us."
What is "The Work"?
It's about learning more about men, women, sex, intimacy and relationships than your dad ever taught you.
It's about learning about yourself and the baggage all men bring into their relationships finally dealing with it.
It's about becoming more calm, confident and less reactive to all the things that trigger you.
It's about learning to make a stand for your deepest held values and making clear, confident decisions.
It's about realizing that no matter how bad things feel in the moment, you have the power to create an amazing life.
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If you're ready to do the work, here's my suggestion.
Ask for a little help. (I know, men don't do this well)
Fill out the application at this page and let us schedule a deep dive conversation.
Bring yourself, your story and your desires. Let us show you what coaching looks, sounds and feels like.
Plan for at least one hour.
No strings. No games. Just brotherhood.
Lotta love, brother,
Steve
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