Giving and Getting
I think there's a broader message here.
We talk about it all the time in our private Facebook groups.
Whenever someone says, "I'm not getting enough!", we always ask, "What have you been giving?"
Most men in a struggling relationship can agree on a few things they want MORE of.
They want more appreciation. More affection. More passion. More fun. More respect. More connection. More trust.
That's the stuff that makes relationships really worthwhile.
But one thing I've learned to be an important - and probably ancient - TRUTH is this:
We can only receive what we want to the extent that we are giving it.
If you're anything like me, you might be a DOER.
A DOER does things. And he thinks that by "doing" things he will get want he wants in return.
He goes to work, makes money, fixes cars, mows the lawn and DOES just about anything he needs to in order to GET what he wants.
But that stuff isn't a "fair trade" for more appreciation, affection, passion and fun!
The only way to create more of that stuff in a relationship is to be cool, calm and consistent in giving that stuff.
So, the question becomes, "What are you giving away lately?"
I know. It's a weird conundrum. Sometimes the last thing you want to do is give more when you feel starved for the things you want most.
The key is learning how to be OUTCOME INDEPENDENT and why it's the liberating secret sauce to your daily sense of happiness.
It's the hallmark of every happy, secure, mature, masculine man.
Want to learn more? We would love for you to join us in making the transformation!
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