"Just Who the Hell Are You?!", he asked.

Published: Sun, 01/17/21

Hey,

When I got started in the business of coaching men in 2013 I hired a pretty pricey coach.

I expressed to him my concerns, doubts and fears about my ability to actually do this for a living and quit my 30 year history of working for someone else.

I knew "who I was" in the world of management, project execution and corporate gamesmanship. I was actually pretty good at it. It was comfortable because it was so damn easy for me.

I told my coach about this nagging voice in my head asking me:

Who the hell are YOU to quit your comfy, regular job and start a business at age 50?!

I answered, "Good point! I must be nuts. Who would hire ME as a coach? And what do I know about being an entrepreneur? I have zero historical evidence that I could possibly succeed at helping other men live better lives AND make a business of it."

When I told my coach this his only reply was, "Well, who the hell ARE you?"

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And that was the beginning of a new conversation in my head.

Nobody ever asked me that before and really cared about my answer.

I was never challenged to clearly define ME.

What do I believe? What do I stand for? What are my unique and inherent strengths? What scares me? What are my bad habits? What am I willing to do that nobody else will to do get what I want.

And most importantly, he kicked my ass to get very clear about the powerful story of what I want to create for my life before my brain turned to mush. (I thought a coach would be "nicer", but he wasn't my friend, he was there to challenge my thinking)

It was a long overdue ass-kicking. And the process of getting CLEAR wasn't easy. I began to see my habit of avoiding things that aren't easy.

But when I got clear...I mean really clear...the doubtful, fearful voices began to change.

And it wasn't motivational poster crap like, "You're so awesome!"

When I got clear about my true capacity to organize, initiate, follow though, create and connect with people I care about the new voices would say:

"Well, if not YOU...then WHO?"

Who was more ready, more qualified and more passionate than I was to become who I wanted to become? Nobody. That's who.

If you've ever wondered what Goodguys2Greatmen does for men, it's essentially just that.

We teach you how to change your thinking so you can finally carry yourself as the creator, master and commander of your own life...no matter what is happening around you.

In other words, YOU happen to life. Not the other way around.

I got a new dog yesterday and invented a reason to put him in this video. I occurred to me that "Jace" does not know who the hell he is yet.

"Can you answer this?....Who ARE You?"

Marriage, Divorce and Knowing Who You Are

You may wonder why this "knowing who you are" thing is so important when we talk about women, marriage, love and sex.

It's important because it's the entire lack of clarity about who you are that is at the root of virtually all conflict, all arguments and all stupid, over-the-top reactions.

If you only see yourself as the dependable providing husband and dedicated father, you're in for some trouble. Most men have a very narrow view of their role and narrow expectations for themselves.

When we're unclear, we argue about anything.
When we're unclear, we take everything personally.
When we're unclear, we get needy and jealous.
When we're unclear, we can't even stand ourselves.

So, let's talk about getting clear.

Here's what I want you to consider giving yourself for 2021.

It's the gift clarity, confidence and reinvigorated mojo.

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The funny thing about getting clear about who you are and what you want is that you NOW know what it is you must DO.

Inspired action is what changes everything.

Lotta love, brother,

Steve

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