“Presents are made for the pleasure of who gives them, not the merits of who receives them.”
― Carlos Ruiz Zafón, The Shadow of the Wind
In the video I explained why the gift you decide to give must be a gift that makes YOU happy. By this I mean you must choose a gift that aligns with your deepest truth about how you feel. It must be congruent with your values about your relationship and the honest regard you have for her.
The last reason to buy a gift for ANYONE is to manipulate their feelings or their thinking.
If you are thinking about buying a "perfect gift" to create any particular response or outcome, you must avoid giving anything.
If you believe giving a gift will somehow validate you or gain her approval of you, you must avoid giving anything.
I want you to get right in your thinking first.
What would you give if you had ZERO ATTACHMENT to any outcome or response?
My partner and friend Tim Wade created a free PDF for you called:
The Confident Man's Gift Guide During Separation
I want you to click on that, give him your email address and then read 10 pages of shear wisdom on this topic. In this free PDF he answers:
- When you should give your runaway wife a gift (and when you shouldn't!)
- 3 Ways to change your thinking about the holidays during separation (and feel better now)
- How to choose the right gift for the right occasion
- How to respond if she gets pissed off
This is a gift from Tim. No strings. He loves giving stuff away. And this is how you can think about gift giving too!
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When it comes to women, marriage, sex and all things romantic men tend to OVER COMPLICATE things.
When we make our very first contact with men on the phone our only goal is to bring them CLARITY.
It's crucial you learn how to simplify your thinking and to focus only on the things that really matter.
One of the most enjoyable things we can do is to listen to you talk for 30 minutes and then give you a powerful, 30-second summary of everything you said in return.
Guys always say,
"Holy crap! Why can't I be that clear and concise? You barely know me but you know my situation better than I do!"
Clarity about your feelings requires you to have clarity about your thoughts.
Clarity about your thoughts requires you to have clarity about your values.
And to get about clarity your values you must be able to ask yourself some really clear and powerful questions!
That's what we do all day every day.
For you...and men exactly like you.
If you want more clarity then you may need to ask for help.
And if you're not sure how to ask for help then just click the link below to set up one of the most incredible conversations you'll have in 2020.
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Click this link to go to the Contact page on my site.
Fill out the unusually personal questions. (just answering these is an exercise in clarity)
Take the next step.
You'll learn something your dad never told you.
That's a promise.
Lotta love, brother
Steve
