Don't get me wrong here.
I am not telling you that you must subjugate your sexual desire.
And I'm not telling you that you need to somehow get used to less sex or even a "sexless marriage".
I'm telling you that the #1 cause of most married guys' waning sex life is their incessant, unregulated and immature response to their biological urge to have sex.
It's simple.
The more desperate and needy we become around our sexual desire the more we sabotage the process of creating a real, healthy sexual connection.
Sure, there are many other factors that can come into play.
Health issues, pain, menopause, emotional blocks and psychological trauma are a few.
But with most otherwise healthy couples, the health of the sexual relationship is greatly affected by the man's healthy relationship with his sexuality.
Want it. But don't need it.
Pursue sexual connection. Don't coerce or manipulate it.
Enjoy feeling turned on without always making it lead to intercourse.
Blue balls (epididymal hypertension) is thing, but it's related to extended periods of arousal and most common in adolescent men. Mature men who complain of the pain of blue balls have a thinking problem, not a biological problem.
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Channeling Your Sexual Energy in More Attractive Ways
You could Google "Sexual Transmutation" and choke yourself on the volume of information available.
Let me make it clear, simple and actionable to save you some time.
Your nuclear reactor of sexual energy is a limitless source of productive, inventive and creative power.
So, use it accordingly.
Use it consciously to pursue a new job, to learn a new skill, to write that book you're thinking about.
Use your sexual energy to propel you into a passion you've always wanted to pursue.
Use it to keep in shape. Use it to plan amazing play days with your kids.
Use it to overcome your fear of taking risks - and go f*ck those risks!
Bottom Line: When you intentionally channel your sexual energy in mindful and mature ways you will begin to live the kind of life that will make you INFINITELY MORE ATTRACTIVE. It's always THAT guy who has a better sex life.
