Hey,
Now that I'm back home after almost 2 weeks of wildfire evacuation I'm feeling kind of thankful.
The house didn't burn down. We're safe and the animals are happily back in their own bed...mine. And, I'm grateful for all the help and support a lot of people gave me.
Now, getting back to business, I want to give you something.
This email is about the all-too-common condition some therapists call "The Walk Away Wife Syndrome".
Among other common traits of this syndrome is the two-year advance planning period many wives spend in anticipation of the end of their marriage.
Don't get me wrong.
It's seldom a detailed plan. Seldom premeditated.
In the beginning it's more of a feeling...an emotional knowing that her marriage cannot continue any longer the way it is. It's a heavy sadness. So heavy, in fact, she can't muster the strength to talk about it or reveal the growing truth in her heart.
And this is where most of say "bullshit!". "Why couldn't she have told me she was feeling this way?!"
The reason is simple. In her own way she thinks she said volumes. In ways you may have missed, but the only ways she knew to tell you.
We give guys clues that may help, like:
- She's constantly detached, disinterested, unresponsive and endlessly distracted by everything and everyone but you
- She's consumed with social media at all hours of the day and night and she has time only for friends, co-workers and people you've never met
- She's suddenly aggressive and disrespectful at every request you make to "talk about it"
- She's adopted strange new habits like smoking, excessive drinking, staying out all night or getting tattoos
If you've seen any of those signs you're probably feeling all kinds of anxiety, loss of appetite and sleep. Brother, you're among men who ALL know what that feels like.
It's impossible in one email to give you enough helpful information to change things overnight. The first phase of the "Walk Away Wife Syndrome" is complex and it's important to not over-react.
Most of us will over-analyze, over-think and over-talk. None of those will work.
In this video, I talk about a free PDF we created to help you start THINKING correctly. Below the video I will give you a link to download this document to give you some immediate guidance on what may be going on in your marriage.