Men...Anxiety...and Why We Suck at Relaxing

Published: Sun, 09/20/20

Hey,

Yesterday afternoon I was pushing myself to finally finish the metal roofing on the new She Shed/He Shed.

I knew I had yet to do my weekend video and newsletter and was worried about my waning energy level. Trying not to fall off a slippery metal roof apparently takes a lot of muscle groups.

So there I was...finally back in the house feeding dogs, horses and then myself. I stared at the computer thinking I MUST get that video and newsletter done! I've made this commitment for years and I wasn't going to fail now. And I'm still trying to prove to myself that I'm not a slacker and I follow through on my word.

Then I fell asleep.

When I woke up a few minutes later I said, "Dude, you're pushing too hard. Make the video in the morning. Do it at sunrise. Go to bed. Nobody will hate you." (as if you're sitting around every Sunday waiting for my newsletter)

So I did. And this is what it looked like this morning.

Suddenly I had all the energy, enthusiasm and desire I needed to shoot my video and send you this newsletter.

The topic became crystal clear.

I've always heard the counter-intuitive phrase,

"Sometimes you must slow down in order to speed up."

This morning I knew exactly what it meant.

So with my wrinkly morning face I just made this about that.

(plus an update on the She Shed/He Shed project)

Men...Anxiety...and Why We Suck at Relaxing!

"To be fast, smooth you must be. To be smooth, slow one must go." ~ Yoda

If you're anything like me, you deal with the problems with a...let's say "enthusiastic" energy.

That's a positive spin on energy driven by an urgent, impatient need to address every little annoyance (fly buzzing in the room)...every little demand (bills must be paid)...and every little discomfort (my wife is unhappy and wants to separate).

Yeah, you didn't see that last one coming, did you?

It's all the same with us men. Our anxiety is driven by a myth we learned along the way that DOING SOMETHING is better than doing nothing.

Kill the fly...pay the bills...and FIX my wife/marriage NOW!!

The way we do one thing is often the way we do most things.

With this newsletter, I want to challenge you to run an experiment for the next 7 days.

Try slowing down to speed up. Every day in every way.

No matter what is demanding your urgent attention I want you to step back. Listen. Watch yourself as you relax into doing NOTHING in the moment.

The world (and everyone in your life) has become accustomed to you DOING, FIXING, REACTING, SOLVING every time you feel a threat to your well being or a demand for your attention.

Watch how THEY CHANGE when YOU CHANGE!

This 7-Day Do Nothing Experiement is meant to show you that you can actually be more efficient, more effective and more RELAXED then you've ever been when you SLOW DOWN.

Email me with your observations or questions.

And if you are in a place where you're ready to slow down and have one of the most productive 90-minute conversations with another man just like you, submit the contact form. Fill it out completely for us and for yourself.

Either I or one of my certified coaches will reply quickly to set up a free, no strings conversation to help you slow down and refocus on what is really important.

Lotta love, brother,

Steve

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