There is Always Another Anger Behind Your Anger

 

We tend to believe that anger is simple.  We think it's a normal emotional reaction to something that ticks us off, offends us or scares us.

Have you ever had an angry outburst over something only to realize later there was something else going on inside you?  Has your temper ever gotten so ridiculous that you became more angry at yourself for allowing it to go that far?

All too often what's hiding behind our externally expressed anger is the SHAME of not doing better, knowing better or BEING better.

That's what I was really mad about today. And guess what?

I've learned that the SOONER I ADMIT IT the better I feel and the better the day goes from that point forward.

Typically we will make quick moves to defend our anger and silly outbursts because admitting we're ashamed of being an ass is too much to bear.

My coaching for you today is to MOVE FAST to admitting the truth.  Yes...out loud.  Admit to yourself and admit to any witnesses (or victims) of your anger.

One reason women absolutely hate it when their man gets mad is because it scares them.  They think we don't have any control and we don't have the ability to see how badly it affects others.

When we can quickly show that we have a handle on it, own it, laugh at ourselves and move on...the faster your relationship will get back to normal.  I guarantee it.  Try it this weekend.

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I know exactly what you mean.  I spent 5 decades THINKING about this stuff, secretly reading about this stuff, but had nobody who really enjoyed TALKING about this stuff.

It turns out the most powerful, interesting, confident and courageous men I've found are those who have the ability to be open, honest, unapologetic and vulnerable about this stuff.  It's changed my life I want the same for you.  

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Lotta love, brother