At this point in his email I start smiling. Through the absolute “suckiest” time in his life he’s had the most important insight of his life.

As long as you don’t die you can still create a whole new experience of life.

What the secret key?

It’s the powerful and stark realization that your self-worth, happiness and well-being is not defined by what’s happening OUTSIDE OF YOU.

On the road to self-reliance there is a switch in a man’s brain that flips with an almost audible CLICK!

It happened for me, it happened for him and it can happen for you.

Immediately after the switch flips you realize that you’re okay at this very moment. Even better, you know you will be okay in the future.

You see yourself as the WRITER of the next chapters. You become the CREATOR of your own new circumstances.

You realize that “hoping for happiness” is no where as effective as owning your happiness.

In this 52-minute interview with Alison Donaghey, I talk a lot more about this switch in a man’s life.

“There is a time in every man’s education when he arrives at the conviction that envy is ignorance; that imitation is suicide; that he must take himself for better, for worse, as his portion; that though the wide universe is full of good, no kernel of nourishing corn can come to him but through his toil bestowed on that plot of ground which is given to him to till. The power which resides in him is new in nature, and none but he knows what that is which he can do, nor does he know until he has tried.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

Mr. Emerson is more flowery than I am. I like to translate for my simple mind.

You get to declare who you are. You must create the life you want. And the key to realizing your own power to do so is hidden behind the fear keeping you from making the effort.

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