Want Someone Who Makes You Happy? (I know the perfect dude)

Published: Sun, 04/05/20

Hey,

I've been a Peanuts cartoon fan since I was little. I even had a custom made Peanuts bedspread, pillow case and curtains when I was 9.

I remember waiting for the Sunday paper to read Peanuts in color. I loved the strips where Lucy had her 5-cent psychiatric booth which Charlie Brown couldn't stay away from. (ended a sentence with a preposition...so what?)

I was talking to my brother today about the notion of "happiness" and how people are having meltdowns during this quarantine period.

Everyone is a little edgy and you just might here these words uttered.

You're just not making me happy!

Then he reminded me of the old cartoon where Lucy came to an all-too- common conclusion.

Lucy: Why do you think we're put here on earth,Charlie Brown?

Charlie Brown: To make others happy.

Lucy: I don't think I'M making anyone very happy. Of course, nobody's making ME very happy either. SOMEBODY'S NOT DOING HIS JOB!

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It's a childish point of view.

But that doesn't stop most of us.

Every single time we begin to feel "unhappy" we start looking around outside ourselves for the culprit.

Substitute the words, "appreciated", "understood", "respected", "heard", "connected"...whatever fits.

If you're looking outside yourself for someone to deliver those to you in an Amazon box you're in big trouble. That package is going to be late.

Everywhere we go to find those feelings we come up empty. Why?

Because those feelings aren't a place we can go to...they are a place we must come from.

I know. What the hell does that actually mean in the REAL world?!

You know me. I'm all about the real world. So I went to my barn to make this video to explain it in 4.5 minutes for you.

"You're not making me happy!"...and other marital nonsense

Why Doesn't She/He Treat Me How I Want to be Treated?

Answer: Because you're not so good at doing that stuff yourself.

I can't tell how much I resisted this idea. I'm no dummy and I think I had an open and shut case in my marriage.

I was a good person, a good provider, a good friend and I got all kinds of sh*t done. I was funny, not too fat and brushed my teeth AND flossed twice a day.

Yet somehow she failed to see the error in her ways of never giving me quite enough of everything I expected. What? Do I need to floss 3 TIMES a day? I mean...what is it?

Simple.

I sucked at being really good at all the things I expected her to give to me.

This is a simple concept everywhere else in life.

If you want good service, be a good customer.

If you want a good friend, be a good friend.

If you want to be paid well, be more valuable than others doing the same work.

Therefore, if we want stuff like respect, appreciation, connection, adoration, trust, honesty, intimacy and passion we must learn how to BE those things.

We've grown up past the playground point of, "Well I will if SHE will."

You're either consistently BEING that kind of person or you're not.

And if you're not being that kind of person for yourself first, then marriage will feel like you're quarantined in a 24/7 shit show.

How would you like to change all that?

How would you like to be surrounded by hundreds of incredibly smart, amazing, successful men who are changing their reality on a daily basis?

This is not a time to curl up in the Netflix nest and wait this thing out.

This is a time to lean in to uncomfortable reality that nothing will change unless you learn how to change...for YOU.

And guess what?

It's the most fun, energizing, mind blowing time a man can have. Well, if I'm honest, it's pretty close anyway.

Two of the most powerful groups of men you can join are the Goodguys2Greatmen Live Coaching Roundtable and the How to Defuse the Divorce Bomb Online Course.

In these groups you are joined by world-class professional men's coaches and scores of men who are exactly where you are right now...or a few steps ahead.

You have literally nothing to lose by trying. I'm not here to take your money.

I'm here to prove to you that I'm more valuable to you than anybody else doing this work.

Lotta love, brother,

Steve

P.S. Don't forget the FREE group Zoom calls we're doing until April 14th. These are gold laden treasure chests of man-wisdom. A max of 100 men allowed...no ladies, ladies. Next one is tomorrow with coach Jeff Allen and his fiance are talking about Masculine and Feminine Polarity. (click that link) Here is the meeting ID and password:

Meeting ID: 812 489 7442

Password: SundayZoom

P.P.S FYI, due to the world health emergency, we're rescheduling our April UK retreat and the May Ranch retreat. Stand-by for more information about those. I still hope to have one retreat at my place this fall if it's safe.

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