I know that you are a competent, successful, kind and loving man, father, brother, son and friend. All the men we speak to have these things in common.
It's only in the emotional world of intimacy, desire, connection and sex that we struggle to feel clear and confident in our ability to create what we want - the passion and spark that has slowly waned and disappeared from our relationship.
What I want you to get from this video and email is that you have a lot more control and influence than you're allowing yourself to utilize.
I want you to learn how to empower yourself. to get a glimpse of what you've been doing that has caused a break in the connection between you and the woman you love.
The story I mention in the video is a classic example of how we trip ourselves up and eliminate all chances of intimate connection being able to happen.
A woman will only open her heart to a man who can stand strong in his own value when she is questioning hers.
As men we want answers. We want clear facts and instructions to solve the problem and get the result we want.
In relationship and especially one that is disconnected, the instruction I want you to get is that YOU have the responsibility to learn the tools at your disposal.
When you need her to change how she treats you before you can connect with her, you give away your power and your ability to create the intimate connection you desire.
Someone has to be the keeper of the connection, someone has to lead you both out of the pain of disconnection and into a place of consistency where she can learn to trust you again. Where she can relax because she feels the unwavering truth in your actions that tell her how important she is to you.
Yes she's going to test you, she has been hurt by all the ways in which you have allowed the connection between you to falter or drop completely.
You know that pain you feel right now, the knot in your gut and the anxiety about your uncertain future...?
She has been feeling that on and off for much longer.
And she NEEDS you to find the way to be consistent in your unconditional care and openness to her.
Especially when she is in pain.
Her pain often sounds like criticism, like judgement, like silence, or that cold distant apathy.
When your confidence is affected by her approval of you or your need for her to be happy with you, she just can't trust that you have the emotional strength to love all of her, including her emotions.
That's why we teach men how to approve of themselves.
Because when you KNOW who you are as a man, you can offer the gift of unwavering intimate connection to her anytime.
When you self approve, you experience her down days completely differently.
You can still shine your lighthouse of care and support even in the face of her emotional storm.
You calmly let her know that this is the man you are, the man you will be and the way you live your life.
A life of intimate connection, passion, trust, respect, empathy, love and desire.
She will test you.
She has to test you.
If you want her to open intimately to you, she MUST test that it is safe for her to do so.
To do anything else would be setting herself up for a painful disconnection AGAIN, and she is understandably averse to doing that.
So my question for you is...
Do you take up the challenge to understand how to self approve now you know it can truly transform the connection in your marriage?
In our coaching we take men through an intense program to build this muscle of self approval to the point where it is rock solid, where you no longer doubt yourself and can even laugh at how you used to get upset by her change in mood.
*****
The Men’s Live Coaching Roundtable is a powerful collection of men from around the world working together to transform themselves and their relationships. Steve and I lead this community with 5 other professional coaches. We have live coaching video calls twice per month. The support and camaraderie in this
group is something missing from the lives of too many men in the world.
We still have 3 spots left for the Unapologetic Masculine Confidence Retreat in the UK, April 24-27th. If you want to feel more confident, more deliberate, less tentative, more open-hearted and easy going then join Steve and I for an intense shot to your mojo that will bring back your belief in
yourself.
We love teaching men these tools – how to be better, how to know who you are, what you stand for, what you want and how to CREATE it in your life through our Masculine Confidence coaching programs.
What if this next year everything changed for you?
That’s what we want for you.
