When I use the term "let go" I am referring to letting go of everything that has created what you've got up to this point.
Every single man must go through a phase of life where he makes mistakes.
We don't know what we don't know and we keep using the same tactics we learned when we were 13.
These are our bad habits of defending, intimidating, criticizing and stonewalling. We spend years in marriage trying to get our needs met via negotiation, sacrifice and compromise only to find out those are useless tactics for getting what we really want.
How does a man get what he really wants?
1. He becomes crystal clear about what he believes in and what his expectations of himself are.
2. He becomes unapologetic about what he expects FOR the life and relationship he wants to experience.
3. He chooses to live DAILY in the skin of a confident man who knows his values. From here he is able to GIVE the things he used to only try to GET.
4. He learns to MASTER his emotional world and stop reacting to everything as a victim.
5. He learns to use his own thoughts to take on a whole new perspective which gives him the clarity to CREATE new circumstances for himself.
It is in those 5 steps that help you create dramatically new habits and new responses to the old version of your marriage.
And it's these new responses that allow you to create a new story about what lies beyond this shitty marriage.
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