How Trying to Save Your Marriage is Like Bitching About the Weather

Published: Sun, 12/01/19

Hey,

Have you ever reached a point in your life where you feel like a never ending shit storm has taken control of you and your sense of peace and well-being?

That was my morning yesterday. I woke up to this. (see pic below)

I must admit something to you. I don't handle this as well as I'd like to.

With all my advice about "changing your perspective" and "being an unrattled mountain lion"... sometimes this crap gets the best of me.

I got stuck in my plow truck. Couldn't start the heavy machinery. Horse water froze. Girlfriend needed to get out to pick up a dog for pet sitting.

And...and... (sniff) the 60 mph wind bitch-slapped me hard in the face and drove cold, wet snow deep into my all-weather, super duper L.L. Bean snow boots.

Sniff.

I can't wait for Mexico.

No storm can last forever. It will never rain 365 days consecutively. Keep in mind that trouble comes to pass, not to stay. Don't worry! No storm, not even the one in your life, can last forever. ~ Iyanla Vanzant

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In the heat (or cold) of a storm, it can feel impossible to take a big, deep breath, slow down, look at the horizon and realize that everything is going to be okay.

It's hard to see what's on the other side of this pain. The overwhelming power of your emotions...the relentless barrage of negative thoughts...and the fear of uncertainty work together to paralyze you and piss you off at the same time.

Then something cool happens.

Same snow only hours later. A new perspective. More serene. More beautiful.

AND I DIDN'T NEED TO DO ANYTHING TO CAUSE IT.

It just happened. And it always does...if you let it.

I explain more about the power of doing nothing in this video.

How to Survive a Sh*t Storm by Doing Nothing at All

What's My Point?

Look, brother, I know why you're here. We're ALL here for the same reason.

We're in search of more confidence - more clarity - more emotional peace and strong personal sense of well-being.

And 99.9% of us came here through the door of relationship pain and uncertainty.

MY POINT is that this "storm" in your life is going to end. And you're going to be just fine.

And just like a snowstorm, you can't control the temperature, wind speed or snow fall. Don't let your masculine need to FIX something make you crazy.

You can't FIX the storm. The storm isn't your fault.

And by SLOWING DOWN now you can recapture that powerful, manly calmness you once had.

Slowing down allows you to be a better OBSERVER and a better LEARNER and a better MAN who measures his responses with clear thinking and inspired action.

Yeah. That's you.

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Lotta love, brother

Steve

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