Hey,
No video today...just words on a screen.
I want to explain something critically important to you in as few words as possible.
Short, sweet and directly to the point.
It's an unconscious habit that negatively influences EVERY MAN'S sexual energy, attractiveness and, therefore, the quality of his sex life.
What's the trait she can smell at the molecular level every time you do it?
It's the constant churning of a hidden agenda to convince, persuade, manipulate or BARGAIN your way into her pants.
Let me make this really clear.
She can smell the following things like a wet dog on her pillow:
- Any attempt to do something with an expectation you should get sexual reward in return
- Any unspoken sense of entitlement to her body and genitalia
- Any implication that you're keeping score and she owes you something
- Any feeling that you're tricking her into a secret contract in which the payoff is you getting what you want
- Any expression of anger, judgment, retaliation or criticism whenever you don't get what you want
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What to Do Instead
Do you remember the time when physical affection was effortless?
Do you remember when you could see right into her eyes that she was ready and willing to be intimate?
Do you remember how damn EASY everything felt back then?
Here's what was likely going on for you both back then. Let's call it "Plan A":
- You had an unspeakable trust in each other
- You were naturally kind, thoughtful and considerate
- You had unquestionable positive regard and respect for each other
- You were quick to forgive and quick to reconnect
- You really, really LIKED each other for who you each were
It was the perfect passionate storm, wasn't it?
Now that you're an "old married guy", guess what my advice is if you want to rekindle desire in your relationship?
Yep...go back to Plan A. Go back to the REAL reasons you originally enjoyed easy touch, playful affection and mutual passion.
STOP playing the new games. They don't work and will never work.
I know! It's almost too obvious!
The reason most couples just can't go back to Plan A is because they've entered the twilight zone of their relationship called DISILLUSIONMENT.
It's the stage of marriage that EVERY ONE hits at some point.
The obstacles seem insurmountable.
You can only remember bad things...hurtful things.
You wonder if you're even compatible anymore or if you just chose the wrong person.
And those "tingly down there" feelings of love, attraction and desire have been replaced by tingly feelings of pain in your ass.
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Why This is Actually Good News
Most guys have no idea that this stage is normal...no, not normal. It's an absolute REQUIREMENT if you want to get to the next stage of relationship.
Yes. This weird, icky, power struggling phase of resentment and second guessing is the door through which we LEARN NEW STUFF.
My friend and marriage therapist, Jed Diamond, says the next stage is where the good stuff happens. It's where REAL love is created. The next stage is where true understanding, acceptance and reconnection can happen.
It's like falling in love again. But this time is for REAL.
No more games. No more bargaining. No more secrets.
Your challenge is to realize that it takes ONE person to see this stage for what it is and decide to starting changing immediately.
It takes a man to decide to stop the free fall into disillusionment...which normally ends in misery whether you stay married or not.
You see your part in getting to this phase and you will see your role in getting out of it.
You'll relax and breathe again. You'll stop all the silly thoughts and the "smelly" games that have helped create this phase of competitive struggle.
And you will START being the kind of man who leads himself and his marriage back into PLAN A energy.
It all starts with you which is why I'm dedicated to coaching only men.
I believe there is NO SUCH THING as a happy, loving, secure, mature, affectionate and passionate relationship without a man at the helm who confidently and naturally embodies those same traits.
The only thing we need to create the life we want is to BECOME the very nature of the life we want.
And that takes courage and commitment to becoming that man no matter what.
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And we map out a very detailed plan to help you commit to the changes you want to make and to stay clear-headed and focused every day from here on out.
For example:
- Stop NEGOTIATING and COMMUNICATING about sex.
- Lose the sexual stopwatch and scoreboard from your bedroom. Stop judging her worthiness to you in sexual units of measure.
- Re-learn how to PLAY and FLIRT. Remember the connection you had when you were dating was fun, flirty and playful. It was full of positive thoughts and positive tension.
- Re-learn the difference between sensual/emotional intimacy and sexual/physical intimacy. She needs you to get this.
- Amp up your own sexual value and physical confidence...starting today.
- Understand the real reasons behind rejection. The word "No" is not a personal attack on your manhood...stop acting as if it is.
Every step of this course models for you the authentic, honest, clear thinking energy you need to move forward.
We priced this powerful course at $500 because $497 is a stupid, manipulative number. We don't play games with you.
This link has tons of detailed information and 4 sample videos compiled for Modules 1 through 4.
We created a bonus video for men who are facing their wife's emotional or physical affair. Tim also made two special videos for fathers and for anyone who is thinking that booze and pot might be helpful at this time.
And I take you to the barn for a series of NSFW (Not suitable for wife) videos where I mince no words in telling you what you're up against and how you need to navigate some very touchy issues.
And...there's a no B.S. money back, no questions asked, 100% refund policy if you don't love it and find it amazing. Check out the sample videos here.
Lotta love,
Steve
P.S. We have only 2 spots left for the October 20-23 Confident Man Ranch Retreat in Loveland, Colorado. Very simply put...this retreat will change your life. Click HERE to get details and great pics!
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