"When you focus on being you, you draw the best possible life, love, and opportunities toward
you. ”
When we start working with a man it's often really easy to get him to understand that he has to start making some changes to himself if he wants to see a difference in what he's experiencing in his life and relationships.
That's obvious, right!
What's not so obvious, is that those changes are much less about becoming a different person, than they are about recognising the person that he already is.
There's good reason that you (and I) get to a point of believing people and circumstances need to be different to enjoy the love and affection we want.
It often starts with the belief that we have to be a certain way for others to want to give those things to us. These beliefs come from our upbringing when we were completely reliant on others to provide our needs for us.
Then we grow up, get married, have kids and all the while at no point has anyone ever sat us down and explained that we're no longer reliant on other people for our happiness.
I know it seems ridiculous that a grown man might not believe that he doesn't have to rely on anyone else, that he is responsible for himself now - and yes, it's easy to know that's true for the majority of our needs such as food, money, a home etc
But when we start talking about emotional needs and the importance of fun, laughter and affection to a man, then he often feels confused and frustrated because he still believes that he needs other people to have those things - he feels powerless and out of control.
How does this relate to having the best day ever?
When you start to realise that the negative feelings you're struggling with come from beliefs that you were given rather than ones you chose for yourself, you start to see that much of what you're experiencing comes from your focus on what you don't have. And on top of that we often completely ignore what we do have.
That's what I mean by recognising the person you already are.
Every man I speak to can tell me of times when he feels relaxed, when he feels happy, when he feels confident and calm. In those situations he knows exactly who he is.
But when his relationship is struggling, he can't seem to bring that man out to play. He's too gripped by fear.
In the story above, nothing's changed in regards to the struggle and tension in the relationship, but by moving his focus from what's going wrong outside of himself to making the inside of himself clear and calm, he reconnected with the man he truly is.
And by doing that, he relaxed and opened up. Then other people around him relaxed too. And when people around you can relax, they can come toward you, open up to connect with you, laugh with you, have fun, have a best day ever with you.
So my question for you is...
What decision or action are you going to choose to take today that will open up an opportunity for you to relax. For you to spend time just being yourself.
Try it. You just might find yourself (accidentally) having a best day ever!!
If you want to find that consistently calm, confident and enthusiastic man inside you again you need other men who understand what you're going through and who will challenge you to make the changes that you need to make.
Come and join us in our online group coaching program with other amazing men who are travelling the same path as you right now - The Men's Live Coaching Roundtable is a place where we will help you re-find the confident, attractive man you know yourself to be. There's an amazing tribe of guys in this group too,
supporting and helping each other through this process of growth and self-realization.
We love teaching men these tools - how to be better, how to know who you are, what you stand for, what you want and how to CREATE it in your life. Our Masculine Confidence coaching programs are designed to teach you how to become a man who knows and trusts himself to create the life and love he wants. I guarantee you'll feel a whole lot
better by the end of our talk.
Our new online course How to Defuse the Divorce Bomb is now available too. With 8 hours of the most powerful coaching insights and advice to give you back your masculine confidence, clarity, peace of mind and the mojo you need at the time when you need it most.
What if this year everything changed for you?
That's what we want for you brother.
Lotta love,
Dan & Steve
P.S. Steve and I are about halfway through a certification program with 5 coaches who are getting their black belt in the GG2GM coaching process. These are senior leaders in our community and powerful coaches around the world who may live right in your timezone. We may match you up with one of these guys with your approval.
