How to Make the Hardest Decision of Your Life

Published: Sun, 05/26/19

Hey,

Each day I day talk to men on the hairy edge of making a decision.

They may be stuck in the "Limbo Land" of a marriage that is spiraling out of control with no resolution in sight.

Or they may feel trapped in a job or career that is sucking their soul out of their body on a daily basis.

Or they want to speak their truth to somebody so badly it's eating them alive and keeping them in a dark, angry place.

How do you make a hard decision?

How do you break free from the fear of outcome and the fear of someone's reaction?

The answer is to simply make your NEXT decision. Just make it.

Just do it. Just say it. Just state exactly what you're thinking and what you want.

The act of making a decision ALWAYS CREATES MOVEMENT IN SOME DIRECTION.

The frustration of indecision is caused by the fear that nothing will ever change. But if you decide to create movement...something will change. And if you decide to do nothing...nothing will change.

The most common challenge I hear is, "Yeah but what if the change I create is something WORSE than I've got right now?!"

My answer is, "Really? You're absolutely miserable right now and you're afraid of being more miserable?"

We are the creators of our own misery.

The decision to not make a decision or to change our circumstance is a decision to stay in our current state.

There is usually some hidden benefit we get by deciding to stay in our current state. We get to blame someone. Or we get to stay in certain misery instead of uncertain happiness.

Eight days ago my brother made the hardest decision of his life. He stewed for 10 years. He had many reasons for not making a decision.

But he finally had enough. Here's the brief story.

How to make the hardest decision of your life

“Without the ability to end things, people stay stuck, never becoming who they are meant to be, never accomplishing all that their talents and abilities should afford them.” ~ Dr. Henry Cloud, Necessary Endings

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A friend told me to read the book Necessary Endings during my divorce 7 years ago. At first I was pissed off at the casual suggestion that "some things just need to end".

But I've learned it doesn't necessarily mean your marriage needs to end.

What normally needs to end are the established patterns of thinking, speaking and behaving.

What needs to end is our chronic level of fear caused by insecurity and emotional immaturity. This applies to both sides of a relationship.

I've learned when a man DECIDES to begin working on his own dysfunctional thinking and behavior, other things start changing immediately.

In other words, when you DECIDE to make clear, deliberate changes in yourself...everything around starts to change to.

And THAT is the movement we need to start feeling like we have more confidence and control in our life than ever before.

And that is a feeling of liberation. The boulder falls off your shoulders just like my brother said in the video.

It's a feeling of freedom to start creating something brand new.

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If you want to become a man who wants to start creating something brand new in your life, apply for a free consultation call right now. We guarantee you will get a shift in perspective and feel a whole lot better by the end of our talk.

Lotta love brother,

Steve

P.S. Dan and I are about halfway through a certification program with 5 coaches who are getting their black belt in the GG2GM coaching process. These are senior leaders in my community and powerful coaches around the world who may live right in your timezone. We may match you up with one of these guys with your okay.

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