You've got to be very careful if you don't know where
you are going, because you might not get there. ~ Yogi Berra
When we're moving through life with our head down worrying about the next thing to go wrong all we see are things about to go wrong.
Then we react to those things only to find another thing waiting after that. We're on our heels and off balance.
In other words, the world is "happening to us" at every moment. We feel like a victim of circumstance.
But, what if you could look up long enough to make a plan of your own? What if you "happened to the world" instead?
What if you realized you were actually the creator of circumstances instead of a victim?
The only way I know to help a man who is feeling out of control, stuck in limbo or off balance is to help him to look farther down the road and make a plan of his own.
And when he does this, the immediate barrage of B.S. in his life becomes less important. He responds to the current distractions more effectively and with less drama.
He can do this because he has a stronger focus on what he is CREATING for himself than what is happening around him.
In the context of a frustrating job or struggling relationship this means you must have a CRYSTAL CLEAR PICTURE of how you plan to change the situation. You must have an inspiring vision of what you want and what you're going to create - no matter what.
The most common word I hear men use to describe this mindset is "liberating". They feel both free from the drama of the immediate circumstances because they feel free to focus on something brand new of their making.
What would this mean for you? What tree branches are smacking you in the head these days because you're not looking farther ahead?
If you were CRYSTAL CLEAR about what you wanted to create, what would be your next move?
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Lotta love, brother,
Steve
