How to Not Let the Bastards Get You Down...and STAY IN YOUR LANE!

Published: Sun, 10/21/18

Hey,

I say this about 20 times a week.

STAY IN YOUR LANE, BROTHER!

I say it to men who are stumbling into negativity, dark thoughts and unnecessary conflict.

But what does it mean?

It means to stop driving into the drama created by others.

It means to stop believing every bad day is a sign that something is wrong.

And when things are going great, don't get caught up in believing they will always be great.

Life is an experience of ups and downs...highs and lows.

But if you don't know where YOUR LANE is, you'll drive all over the freaking road feeling out of control...a victim of circumstances.

If you don't know where YOUR LANE is, you'll tend to drive in everybody else's lane...reacting to THEIR emotions and measuring yourself by THEIR moods and THEIR approval.

You must create a lane for yourself that is peaceful, calm and confident.

Your lane is a mindset that constantly reassures you that you're OKAY. And no matter what's going on around you, you're going to be okay.

Your lane is a set of personal beliefs and values that cause you to think more clearly, speak more honestly and act more boldly.

I talk more about it in this video.

How to Stop Overreacting and Stay in YOUR Lane

Learning to stay in your lane is a constant process of self-awareness and self-correction. Your hands are always moving slightly on the wheel...keeping yourself in the correct lane.

The process requires the willingness and effort to learn. This means reading, talking, sharing and supporting other men. The process also requires you to accept help from others.

For example, one guy recently read my book and sent me this:

"I feel the need to email you briefly, and thank you for you book “Straight Talk Tools for the Desperate Husband “ that I purchased on Itunes .

It came at just the right time for me, and offers some powerful insight, reassurance, honesty, education and ideas for action when I am feeling at my most powerless in my relationship, lost and with very low confidence. Sections of your book dovetailed well with where I’m at and the beginning of the journey I’m currently taking. What resonated most was that I need to work on improving me as a focus, not improving my relationship with my partner. Also key was the advice on what to stop doing in my interactions with her, most of which were boxes ticked by me in terms of what I’m currently doing. Also the comments on fear, as clearly this is what’s driving a lot of my decisions.

So my thanks and gratitude for your book and wise counsel. I feel very fortunate to have come across your book, and I thank you for all that it provides. Could email much more, but put simply, thanks for writing a great book."

If you want to learn how to start "staying in your lane", you may want to start with this book.

Then, if you have deeper questions or want to set up a consultation just email me.

You can get it by clicking HERE for about 8 bucks.

Lotta love brother.

Steve

P.S. If you want a copy of the book and for any reason you can't order it, just say so and I'll email you a free PDF version. I trust you. And I won't let $8 stand in the way of you getting the support you need.

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