Facing Divorce? Here's How to Stop the Fear of Bone Crushing Loneliness and Despair

Published: Sun, 09/16/18

Hey,

This week I decided to fly right toward Hurricane Florence and you'll never guess what happened.

I almost didn't leave Colorado. The forecasts were dim. Negative Nellie's told me to cancel my trip. "You might get stuck on the east coast for days!", they said.

So what did I do?

I drove 2 hours to Denver International Airport and jumped on a plane flying straight for Hurricane Florence. Well, actually, it was to Baltimore...but close enough.

I decided to assume the best and accept the worst. But the the worst never happened.

It usually never does. Read that again.

The worst things we imagine almost never come true.

And as Teddy Roosevelt once said:

"In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing."

So...I made my decision.

I got to attend my niece's outdoor wedding. No rain!

I helped my brother save a choking horse at the draft horse rescue he volunteers at on Saturday mornings. The horse is doing fine.

Played Frisbee until my right arm nearly fell off. But it's that "good kind of hurt"...if you know what I mean.

Snuggled with my nephew, Barley, for 3 nights.

This is him.

No offense to my real nephew, Corey. But Barley is a lot cuter.

And, I had dinner with a great guy who just started working with me and just so happens to live near Baltimore.

We decided to grab a beer and make a video for you to make a point about MAKING TIME for the quality men in your life.

Why?

Because THIS is how you will stop the fear of bone crushing loneliness and despair - even in the face of possible divorce.

I bet you thought I'd never get back on topic, didn't you?

Watch the video for a better explanation.

How to Jump Start Your Mojo and Start Creating More Connection

I know I've said this before but it bears repeating.

Too many men give up their friends, their interests, their hobbies and their passions when they get married. Every ounce of their identity, significance and happiness is tied directly to their role as husband and father.

Do not get me wrong here. Yes, those are incredibly important and fulfilling roles.

But if they are your sole source of your sense of well-being, security and value you will quickly find yourself on your heels, walking on eggshells in fear and negotiating for your dignity.

And it will be nobody's fault but your own.

Feeling confident, happy and significant needs to be developed independently from your outside identity. It's an inside job.

Feeling connected, passionate, motivated and energized must be created in many ways beyond your marriage and family.

And one of the best ways to do this for men is to develop and maintain positive, supportive and loving relationships with other men. Yeah...I said "loving".

Here's your homework:

Find ONE GUY this week who you respect and admire and reach out to him. Ask him to lunch, golf, coffee or a hike. Tell him why you're doing it. Tell him what he means to you and don't apologize one second for being honest and open with him.

That is how you develop and maintain quality relationships with quality men. You must take the first step.

Have you noticed that women seem to have figured this out already? This is why they are the ones laughing and carrying on in their assisted living centers while most men isolate themselves in their rooms. (I've been in a lot of those place in the last few years)

If you think you're ready to join a bigger community of high quality men, I'd love to talk with you about your situation, your challenges and your dreams.

If we wind up working together you will be invited into an amazing tribe of the highest quality, most supportive and loving men I've ever known.

To apply for a consultation call just click HERE.

Lotta love, brother,

Steve

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