Hey,
Death by female.
For most of the men in my community, that's the one shared pain.
And that's what I usually say when people ask, "What the hell is it you do again?".
I
tell them there comes a time in the life of many (MANY!) good men when their world comes crashing down. And I help them transform themselves and their relationships when it happens.
When you consider women initiate nearly 70% of all divorces, that means there are scads of men who are caught like a deer in the headlights.
As you may know, I teach men this process normally starts for her about 2 years
before he first hears "I just need space!" or "I love you but I just don't feel in love anymore."
This is why she seem so cold, calm and calculated when you feel like it's fresh news. She's been mourning this moment for a long time. Her crying days are over.
If you're lucky, you've been tuning in to my community BEFORE the two-year time clock runs out. And you've started to notice the signs that things are headed the wrong way.
A smart man decides to take action NOW -
not later.
Unfortunately, many of us (yeah, me too) waited way too long and find themselves in the twisted stomach knot of "Death by Female".
At this point it's CRUCIAL to understand a few
things going on with her. It's also important that you know this IS NOT ALL ABOUT YOU. That this may not have been preventable.
And it's also important to know how you contributed to the environment of disconnection, distrust and disillusionment.
How you think and respond at this very moment will predict how you next 20 yrs. are going to go.
If you respond with anger, fear and
desperation you will tend to continue that pattern in the future.
But if you learn to respond with calmness, confidence and compassion you will find more peace, clarity, happiness and self-respect than you've ever had before. And THAT will positively improve your future in very positive ways.
If you're entering the "Death by Female" stage, this video may help you get your feet back on the ground.
