She said, "What is this?! A He-Man Woman Haters Club?!"

Published: Sun, 05/06/18

Hey,

About 3 years ago I was sitting in a private room in a brew pub with my local men's group having our regular "Men, Marriage and Sex" meeting.

As the meeting started we were laughing about something stupid someone said and just then the waitress came in to take beer orders.

She (jokingly?) said, "What is this? A he-man woman haters club?"

We laughed and didn't even try to give an explanation...and she didn't seem interested in hearing one either. It seemed she had already made up her mind.

You may not be old enough to remember The Little Rascals. They created the first He-Man Woman Hater's Club.

In this scene, Spanky announces the formation of his He-Man Woman Haters Club after being snubbed by a girl who didn't invite him to her party. Funny!

He-Man Women Haters Club Meeting

After the waitress left the room, I asked the men, "If you had the chance to answer her question, what would be your shortest, clearest answer you could give her?"

This is what I heard from these men.

"Actually, we're here to learn how to be better men so we can better love the women in our lives."

and...

"We come here to figure out who WE are so we can be emotionally secure, more confident and less fearful and reactive around women."

and...

"I'm here to figure out how to think and how to respond to a woman who doesn't trust me and instantly assumes I'm in a woman haters club!"

They're right.

This ain't no woman haters club.

Once I invited a friend I'll call "Margo" to come to a meeting to share her thoughts about women and how they experience men in relationship. She shared some of the most honest, touching and vulnerable feelings she's had in relationships with men.

The men intently asked her questions and the conversation was free-flowing, trusting and emotionally deep.

One of the younger guys got a little weepy. Margo said, "What's wrong?"

"Joe" said, "Don't take this the wrong way, but I find you intoxicating. This conversation is something I dream about with my girlfriend and I'm afraid I'll never meet any woman in my generation willing to go there with me."

We all took a collective, "Gulp". We knew what Joe meant.

I explain more in this video.

The Simple Mind Hack to Creating More Connection and Intimacy

Here's the bottom line.

We all pretty much want the same stuff.

We want to feel free and safe to connect at a deeper level. We want to feel heard and understood. We want to FEEL the connection of emotional, intellectual and spiritual intimacy with a woman.

We want affection, physical intimacy and passion.

We want to be able to trust and to be trusted.

We want to appreciate and feel appreciated without being accused of being a "he-man woman hater.".

So why is this so hard for the men I work with ?

It is the intense, unbridled attraction and love we have toward women that tends to unravel our sense of security, confidence and self-respect.

That's what needs fixing.

When we show up with an immature sex drive, uncontrolled fear and insecure neediness...all hell breaks loose.

We doubt our own value and the thing we fear most is REJECTION.

And the moment we allow that fear into our bloodstream we give off the vibe of a "he-man woman hater".

And it's impossible to ever get what you want from that place.

This is what the meetings are all about.

It's what my articles, videos, retreats, book and coaching programs are all about.

It's about FOCUSING AND WORKING on getting you out of that place and into the place you want to be. And that's in the skin of a calm, confident man who knows his own value and understands how to share that value from a fearless place of love and self-respect.

When you're in THAT skin...everything is easier. It's the most liberating skin you'll ever know.

How do you get that skin?

I'd like you to consider joining us in the summer Men's Cave Group Coaching Program.

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Here is what a "cave man" posted recently in our Secret Men's Cave Facebook page. He is in the Men's Cave program running right now.

"Men, here is what I've gained so far:

- Taking things less personally (well, mostly)
- Feeling more confident
- Feeling more directed
- Enjoying having a tribe of brothers I can confide in and support
- Knowing that I will always be ok
- Knowing that I can always fall back on self reliance and trust in my inner strength
- Much less worried about what others think of me
- No longer feeling the urge to defend myself
- Giving less fucks about things that don’t matter
- Knowing I can change any part of me for the better at any time
- Looking after myself better
- Greater self awareness
- A calmer mind
- A more loving heart.

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“Nothing great will ever be achieved without great men, and men are great only if they are determined to be so.”
Charles de Gaulle

Lotta love, brother,

Steve