The problem with the question, "What if it doesn't work?" is this.
When you decide to become more confident, calmer, clearer and grounded in your own sense of value and well-being...there is nothing that needs to "work".
That IS the work. The measure of your work is not in the outcome of your marriage, her desire for you or any other EXTERNAL result over
which you have no control.
You decide to become this man because it's important to you no matter what.
And here's the other
thing we don't get at first.
There is NO WAY the older version of you stands a chance of attracting her back into a relationship. Panic, pleading, promising, pressuring and demanding will only make things worse.
The reality is that your future is uncertain.
But you can create certainty in how you respond and how you choose to THINK about this whole process.
And your first thought needs to be:
"F*ck this. I'm going to become the very best, strongest and most attractive version of myself no matter
what. I want that for me regardless of the outcome."
Now THAT attitude will serve you well. I guarantee it.
What happens when you read that? What do you FEEL right after saying that out loud?
It's liberating. The knot in your gut loosen just a touch.
It's empowering.
You begin to see that even in the discomfort of uncertainty and an unpredictable outcome in your marriage...you get to create your own certainty.
When you finally get on this track, your inner peace returns and your mojo shoots up and to the right.
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Lotta love, brother,
Steve
P.S. My Kindle book, Straight Talk Tools for the Desperate Husband may be what you need to give you an immediate injection of confidence. Here's what a reader wrote about it yesterday. And, again...if you simply can't
afford the $7.99 or you live in a place without access or ability to order it...just say so. I will send you a free copy in email.
From
Chris:
I give this book a FULL five stars.
Full marks for a book which delivers clear and useful content without any psycho-babble or new age garnishes. The content is born of experience, reflection, trial and error, and work with a range of men facing challenges. For me, this makes Straight Talk a kind of common-sense style manual, which still causes epiphanies
and big 'aha' moments.
The title limits the book 's audience to desperate husbands, though I would say it applies to North American men, single, dating, or married.
I actually like that the book is a collection of articles. I find the result to be a series of well polished and important points clearly stated. There is also a lot of helpful video and coaching resources surrounding the book which bolsters the
effect.
I have read about 20 books on masculinity and relationships, and this one is top 5, because of it's simple, unpretentious style, and undeniable functionality.
