Hey,
The WORST thing a race car driver can do is LOOK AT THE WALL.
If he looks at it - he will hit it.
If he thinks about it - he will hit it.
If he's gripped in fear about sliding into it - you guessed it - he will hit.
This is known as "manifesting what you DON'T want".
The PRIMARY CAUSE of men
getting what they don't want is a total lack of focus on what they DO want.
Just like the race car driver who fails to look down the track and around the next curve, men hit the proverbial "wall of what they don't want" because that's all they are thinking about.
When we worked with Paul last year at the Confident Man Ranch Retreat, all he thought about was what might go wrong. He was focused on what he didn't want to happen.
And the horse was both scared and confused.
It was scared because Paul was scared and it was confused because Paul didn't know what he wanted or how to ask for it.
We showed him an exercise to help him focus on what he wanted.
We wanted him to "seduce" the big, beautiful mare into calmly lowering her head and touching her nose to the
ground.
Simple, right? Yeah, right. If you're scared or confused about how to ask her you just might cause a rodeo. That's what had Paul scared.
But when Paul became crystal clear about what he was going to ask of her and exactly HOW he was going to do it...it looked like magic.
In about 2 minutes of calm, confident but MINUSCULE invitations, the mare happily lowered her head and
touched her nose to the ground.
If Paul had succumbed to his fear and confusion, she would have been long gone.
This is the power of knowing what you want and HOW you are going to ask for it.
It's a total change in your masculine frame and your energy.
And this is what changed Paul's life.
Tim Wade and I explain a little more about the question, "What do you want?" in this video.
