A Promise I Made to You 2 Years Ago

A Promise I Made to You 2 Years Ago - Delivered Today

Published: Sun, 09/10/17

Hey,

Remember the movie Groundhog Day with Bill Murray?

He had to keep living the same damn day over and over again until he got it right.

As it turns out, he did. The repetition, persistence and determination paid off and the movie had a really cool ending.

I just spent every week for the last two years trying to get something right.

In August of 2015 I promised myself and you to try to do some videos. I was nervous and self-conscious.

Here's my very first one. I didn't even know how to hold the stupid phone.

How Do You Improve Your Self Confidence?

And here is number 100. I went to the same spot and wore the same shirt.

I Did This 100 Times and Guess What Happened?

The Biggest Lesson Learned After 100 Videos That Applies to Everything

The biggest lesson I learned is that everything I was afraid of was a bunch of crap.

I thought I needed to know technical stuff.

I was afraid of looking and sounding stupid.

I was thinking I had to look as smart as every fancy video person I've ever watched.

My fear and nervousness was rooted in not being good enough - not having anything important to say - and thinking you wouldn't watch.

Then I get another email today from a guy I've never met. I received this just an hour before I went to shoot video #100.

"I just wanted to thank you for all that you do, creating an outlet for men to understand their thoughts and emotions. After watching what feels like hundreds of your videos and taking this time to read books I finally feel like I'm finding myself again and have an identity...so thank you."

Damn.

I think this means I should keep going. So, I will. I'll commit to you right now one hundred more.

Here's another thing I learned.

Never be afraid to ask for help!

I asked many of you for help and feedback. Between you and my own coach I tried little bitty changes over time and picked the ones I liked and got rid of the ones I didn't.

I learned that - in the end - my videos were unique and useful. NOBODY could do videos the way I did them because they aren't me and never will be.

Same goes for you.

When you find your authentic voice and your true identity as a man, everything starts to feel easier. More natural. More confident.

Asking for help - taking small steps each day - and being consistent, determined and persistent will always outperform tactics and techniques.

I learned we shouldn't waste time wishing things were different for us. We just need to work at being better. And we must know what that means for us - by OUR measure and nobody else's.

One day at a time.

Thanks for being here with me.

I'll see you next week!

Lotta love, brother,

Steve

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