How to Respond to Controlling Criticism Without Another Stupid Argument

Published: Sun, 07/02/17

Hey,

I'll make this short and sweet.

Stop arguing about stupid shit.

Yep. That's pretty much it.

I hear about stupid arguments and heavy conversations all the time.  They are usually over the most ridiculous crap that somebody (you know who) has escalated into a grand jury trial.

It's not your fault that she is launching the silly attack, but it is your fault that you take the bait.

I know how tempting it is.  Her inner 13 year old girl throws out yet another controlling, critical comment and then YOUR inner 13 year old boy is ready for war.

Yeah, just like we did when we were kids.

But you're not a kid anymore.  

You're adult man.  Powerful.  Wise.  Mature.

You're also her LOVER.  The ONLY MAN on this planet who is allowed to kiss her, hug her and make love to her. So act like HIM.

The best way to respond to ridiculous, controlling or critical complaints is though your lover energy.

This guy doesn't defend himself because he doesn't feel threatened.

This guy doesn't get drawn into stupid arguments because he finds her attractive and amusing.  She doesn't scare him.

This guy doesn't feel bad about himself just because she is pissy.  He already knows he has stepped up to the plate and her issues are not his.

In other words, he's good in his own skin and unrattled by whatever is going on with her.

In this video, I explain more about the type of "Lover Response" you need and the mindset you need to adopt to feel strong and confident again.
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And as I explain in the video, there may be times when her input is dead nuts, balls on accurate.  She may have a really solid point or idea you should listen to.

You need to know the difference between her efforts to collaborate and contribute as a partner and her insecure needs to criticize and control you.

Your responses must be different.  And when you learn how to deliver the LOVER ENERGY response, you will feel much better about the whole thing.

She probably won't love it at first because you're deflecting her anger and attempts to control you.  That's fine.  Let her feel what it's like to be around an amused, unrattled lover for a change instead of the little guy who just wants to defend himself.

Things will change if you are consistent and detached from her approval.

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Lotta love, brother,
Steve

P.S. Here's a pic of some great men at the June retreat. Please don't ask why my shirt is missing. 
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