Hey,
How do you tell the difference between a normal request to get some downtime alone and something more
serious?
How can you know if she is just tired or if she's quietly putting her ducks in a row and plotting her departure from the relationship?
I address those questions in the video below, so you're going to have to watch my ugly mug for the
answers.
You need to respond very differently depending on which type of "I need space" problem you're dealing with.
The last time I talked about this (see the video link in the article below) I was referring to the run of the mill "I need space" request. That plea means one thing - she
just needs time and space to recharge, recommit and reconnect.
We all need that from time to time.
But what about the other kind of "I need space"? The one where something just seems really off. Something smells fishy.
I believe this is a time to step up and into the discomfort.
Whenever there is obvious tension, fear, disrespect and disconnection going on it's time for truth telling.
And the only way to get to the truth is to lean into the tension and squeeze
the discomfort until something pops.
It's kind of like those big, red, swollen boils you got on your teenage forehead. You gotta prick that boil.
There's a hot, oozing infection in there and it must be released. The truth must be exposed - sooner than later. It may be nasty,
but you must do it.
This is your job. I teach men how to do it with confidence and courage.
Not through fighting, arguing, whining, begging or screaming. That never works. You need to prick the boil like a man. Again, watch the video for more
details.
Here is my latest article on this topic along with the link to the last video on the "She Wants Space" topic.
