Hey,
Let's talk about the evils of chasing women.
In fact, let's talk about the evils of chasing anything.
It doesn't matter if you're chasing a raise, a promotion, a customer, a client or a woman.
Chasing is needy...and needy is creepy. And creepy gets you nowhere.
So when you want something what's a better option?
INVITING.
When you INVITE others into your world and offer them a chance to partake in the value you have to offer, you lose your neediness.
What does this look like?
At work it means becoming so damn valuable that you OFFER your boss the opportunity to give you a big raise. You don't need your boss to give you a raise. You become so valuable in your job that your invite them to keep you by paying
you more. You don't "need" a raise - you know you deserve a raise and make your offer. Pay me or lose me.
As a business owner, I don't chase my clients or beg them to like me or work with me. I give them value and explain my mission. I show them what they are missing. I explain how their
life will change if they do this work and describe what I require of them to work with me. Then I INVITE them to work with me. I don't need to chase clients - I offer them a chance to have a better life. Their choice.
This works the same way in your relationships!
You don't need to chase your wife or beg her to do anything.
You become an unmistakable man of value with a clear
mission.
You show her what she's missing by calmly and deliberately demonstrating what you want and where you're going. You don't need her compliance or agreement. You're not her Overlord.
Then you make your invitations. You offer her to join you in the amazing life and set of values you're already living. Her choice.
I know what you're thinking.
"Yeah, but what if she says no?!"
That question comes from a little place inside you. It's where our scared 13 year old boy lives.
I've got one of those too.
I explain more about him in this video.
