Hey,
Many years ago you loved every single thing about her...even those nutty things she did that made you
cringe.
She was adorable - just as she was.
Now? No so much.
The mistake you're making now is wishing she could more like you. Kind of like a man - only with boobs.
Hey, I'm guilty too. It can feel like a tremendous amount of work and effort to relate to her like a girlfriend.
You're always second guessing, tip-toeing around in arguments and trying not to screw up.
Stop trying so hard.
Really. You don't need to be her girlfriend. You
just have to learn how to calmly BE with her without needing her to change.
And, more importantly, when you learn to be more relaxed, curious and confident in your own skin - your whole dynamic with her will change shockingly fast!
I see this every day. A client told me yesterday that he's suddenly found her leg wrapped around him in bed. That hasn't happened in two months! All because he learned to stand tall, not over-react and not try to be her girlfriend.
This article explains more about this
problem.
And in this video I tell you about another problem that arises when you start to gain confidence and stop over-reacting. What do you do when she says, "You just don't care how I feel!"
Watch the video for my
tip on this sticky situation.
