Three Types of Men - Which One Are You?

Published: Sun, 04/16/17

Hey,

When I used to work in corporate America, the CEO liked to say there were 3 types of people
  • Those who make things happen;
  • Those who watch things happen and;
  • Those who wondered what happened
If you're reading this newsletter I'm guessing you're probably a "make it happen" kind of man.

You're smart, focused, responsible and productive.  People like you, trust you and respect you.  They can count on you.

This is probably because you are confident and competent in what you do. You know who you are and the value you bring.  And you're clear about where you're going next and what you need to do to get there.

But...

When it comes to the sex, love and romance department you may not feel "all that".

You may be more of a "watch things happen" or "wondered what happened" kind of guy.

I get it.  That was me too.  And looking back I could puke at how I would sit on the sidelines wondering when the coach would put me in.

I didn't know what I didn't know and so I watched and wondered.

And you know what happens next.

I started whining, complaining and blaming everyone else for my dissatisfaction.  I acted like I had no control or influence over my situation.

I've noticed a similar mindset in guys who are going to marriage counseling. They give away their power.

They have no real opinion on the matter.  I tell men they must be clear on 3 things:

1.       Who am I as a man?  What are my driving values as a husband, lover and father? What do I expect of myself when nobody is watching?
2.       What do I want?  What are the core elements of the life I want to live and the relationship I want to be in? What do I expect for myself and my family?
3.       Where am I going? What is the compelling long-term vision I have for my life and marriage that is so powerful it makes me want to cry?

I made a quick video for you about "The Case Against Men and Marriage Counseling" below.

And here's my latest article on the same topic.

​​​​​​​I believe every man's battle is to achieve blinding clarity (there's an oxymoron for you) on those 3 questions.

Everything he thinks, says and does comes from his clarity of mind on who he is, what he wants and where he is going.

And if you're the slightest bit cloudy, things feel hard.  Conversations at work. Discussion with your woman.  Arguments with you kids.

Hell, it's hard to commit to a health regimen or a financial plan if you're cloudy on those questions.

The only way I've found to get clarity is to get serious.

You have to decide that getting clear, focused, purposeful and decisive is MORE IMPORTANT than any other crap going on in your life.

And I can promise you, when you do, everything gets smoother, easier and happier.  Here's how one great man put it this week at the end of his program with me.

“I quickly learned things that would not only help my relationship but more importantly help me grow as a man. Steve instantly became my trusted resource for tough questions and conversations that were taking place in my life. We spent hours together via phone and email working though some very tough situations.

My marriage is now in a more stable place. There are less arguments and more common ground. I’ve learned to be aware of how I contribute to my own happiness. I am thankful that I came across Steve’s website and would highly recommend his program to ANYONE who wants to improve their marriage and more importantly themselves.”

If you're ready to stop watching or wondering what to do next, this is what you need to make your next bold move.

It's powerfully transformative work for powerful, committed men.

Go HERE to apply for a consultation call.

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Fyi, there are still 2 SPOTS LEFT at the Confident Man Ranch Retreat coming up soon.  I'd love to have you join us.  More HERE about that.


Here's a link for the other retreats this year.  These are already starting to fill up now so don't wait.


Lotta love, brother,
Steve

P.S. If you want more interaction and intense conversation about this stuff then check out our Goodguys2Greatmen Closed Facebook Group. Click that link to request admission.  This is a "Men Only" group - invitation only - for men who want to engage in thoughtful, kind and respectful dialogue about anything and everything.