In a recent email I mentioned having witnessed 90 year old men in nursing homes sitting in wheelchairs and pissing their pants.
With a sour scowl on their face they watch the old ladies congregate, connect and laugh with each. They're angry, disconnected and
isolated.
I also know a lot of men in their 30’s, 40’s, 50’s and 60's doing the same thing. I was afraid it might happen to me.
This is
what happens to men when they have nobody to talk to.
These are good men. Sensitive men. Intelligent, aware, emotional and caring men.
These are romantic, loving, sexual and interesting men.
Sometimes you’ll see us at a party talking with just the women.
Why?
Because their conversations are usually more fun. They’re more open and more interesting.
That’s me
sometimes too.
I can keep up with any guy talking about cars, sports, tools and the great outdoors. But I get bored to tears quickly with the same old rants about politics, sports, weather and the last deer hunt.
I especially get bored with guys who hide out behind the mask of “male toughness” with nothing interesting to share about themselves.
I like things a little deeper – “edgier”, if that’s a word.
I’ve spent too much time in the shallow end of the emotional pool trying to cover up my truth and pretend I’m too tough to have feelings.
Hell, as a 13-year old I would secretly read the Ann Landers advice column while pretending to be reading Peanuts. I’d cover up Ann’s answer and then try to answer the
questions on my own. I’ve never even told my family this!
And I’m sure my older brother, Gary, is laughing his ass off right now reading this. It
feels good to no longer give shit about stuff like that.
I love listening, talking, sharing and connecting with people who want to live more deeply.
I love getting raw and honest about what we want and how we’re going to get it.
That’s the fun part. Figuring out how to make dreams come true and overcoming the obsolete wiring and social programming we’ve had shoved down our throats.
This is what sets us free.
Two Invitations to Connect With Other Great Men
Here are two things I’m up to that can help you connect with other men who get you and can support you.
First
Here is a brand new PRIVATE Facebook group I’m opening up to my
subscribers.
This is an exclusive group of high quality men who want to support and be supported by other high quality men.
We are here to share, listen, discuss and debate topics about men, women, sex,
relationships and marriage...among other stuff. (this is different from my Private Men’s Forum where clients and graduates meet to dive much deeper deep into highly personal topics)
Read the first post to get an idea of what we’re about and the rules of being a member.
I will be active in this group and will also post events and information. There will probably be some free coaching as well.
If you want to be a part of an
exclusive group of men who have your back then request to join.
Second
You’re probably aware of the April 27-30 all-inclusive ranch retreat coming up.
This will be 10 men maximum and will be one of the most powerful, emotionally significant and life-changing events you will ever attend.
It’s in a unique Rocky Mountain
setting on a guest ranch just north of Denver. We’re going to ride horses, hike, relax, eat, drink, talk, laugh and learn together. We'll share sunrises and sunsets together.
This is how we avoid sitting in the corner of a nursing home pissing our pants in our wheelchair.
We will be listening to each other’s triumphs and tribulations and supporting each other to go to a new level in their masculine power.
You will see coaching and be coached
to learn a new perspective and a whole new strategy to change your circumstances and get what you want.
Prepare to get a serious shot of confidence, clarity and optimism about your future.
I call it a “Confident Leader” retreat because the most important part of being a leader is knowing how to confidently lead yourself first.
Lotta
love,
Steve
