Jake had been thinking about turning her loose for a couple of weeks now.
He was getting more and more frustrated at her unwillingness to do anything he wanted her to do.
She just rebelled against every attempt he made to get closer and connect. The distance was both
infuriating and saddening for him.
Maybe it was time to let her go and find another. He just couldn’t decide. And every morning he woke up agonizing over it.
Today he would try again. He would approach his 8 year old mare, Callie, once more to see if he could make a breakthrough.
Yeah, Callie is a horse.
And Jake is about to learn a lesson about himself and his relationship with Callie.
Jake’s Big Lesson
The trainer pulled up in his truck Saturday morning and
saw Jake and Callie in the corral.
As usual, Callie had her ears pinned back and was tossing her head in defiance to Jake. All he wanted was for her to stand next to him quietly and let him pet her.
The trainer had 30 years of experience working with horses just like Callie and quickly made an assessment of what was going on.
He said, “Jake, there are only 3 reasons a horse won’t do what you
want it to do. I’m not sure which one is true for Callie yet, but you need to know these rules.”
“What are they?” asked Jake.
This is what he told Jake.
The only 3 reasons a horse won’t do what you want it to do are:
- She really has no clue what you want or expect. You haven’t clearly asked for
anything specific.
- You haven’t learned how to ask in a way she understands – You’ve been inconsistent, intimidating and confused in your own request.
- She has a physical, mental or emotional block preventing her from doing what you’ve
asked.
Let’s bring these concepts into our relationships with women.
When my ex-wife first moved in with me in a little house in Texas in 1984, I was a LOT like Jake.
I had a woman who was hard to understand. She was hard to get close to and often rejected my attempts to get close in any way – emotionally, physically, intellectually or spiritually.
I didn’t even know about those 4 types of intimacy back then, but I knew I wasn’t getting what I wanted. I would argue, push, pout and distance myself all in an attempt to get her to do something I wanted her to do.
As you may know, this feels unspeakably
frustrating and hurtful and can send a man to bed crying – which it did.
Here’s what I learned way too late.
- I was terribly unclear, uncertain and scared about asking for what I wanted. I was
wishy-washy in my requests and afraid of being direct for fear of her reaction. I learned how to use the power of guilt and intellectual coercion to get what I wanted. I wound up with a scared, non-trusting woman that could only give to me out of fear and obligation.
- I was totally ignorant of the
subtle ways I scared her. I didn’t know how to create a trusting environment where she could feel safe and attracted to me. She could not understand why I was approaching her with an energy of neediness and control and she naturally pulled away from my desperate bids to connect.
- She had issues. As most of us do, she had a past before me that included abuse, shame, ridicule
and disappointment. These emotional scars were invisible to me and nobody taught me how to address them. And nobody taught me how to deal with my own!
Does any of this sound familiar to you?
Are you possibly in
the middle of this reality right now?
Do you want to change that faster than you thought humanly possible?
I help men do this every single day
and I want to help you too.
Like I said yesterday in my email to you…understand horses and
you will better understand women and YOURSELF.
This is why I chose a dude ranch for my next retreat.
It’s the perfect place to gain a whole new perspective on creative the love, sex and life you want.
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- Calm in your ability to connect with a woman in a way that makes her feel attracted and happy to be with you
- Happiness with yourself for joining other great men on the most important journey of your life
April 27, 28, 29 and 30, 2017
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Lotta love, brother,
Steve
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