Hey,
I want to talk about psychology at a very basic level.
Just getting a clear picture of WHY we do the silly, stupid things we do when we're afraid should be enough to help you make a shift as soon as today.
Have you ever tried to hit a golf ball toward the green with a 10 acre pond immediately to your right? Yeah. It makes you nervous. It makes one eye ball glance constantly at the one thing you really DON'T want.
And then you take
a tentative, teeth clenching swing at the ball...and even before you hit it you know it won't turn out well. It's a 3/4 swing. You don't trust yourself and you're playing small.
That situation happens at least 10 times a day for men in a relationship that isn't going well.
Why?
Because he's like a race car driver running in the back of the pack staring at the wall. He can't steer, accelerate, brake or pass anyone properly because he has one eye on the damn wall at all
times.
In his relationship, the "wall" is something else. It's FEAR. It's his fear of her not liking him. Fear of making her mad. Fear of LOSING HER.
And when we
"drive" through life and relationships with fears like those, we spend most of our time on the defensive. And in romantic relationships with women...that's the most ineffective, unattractive and unsexy position to drive from.
We argue, get defensive, play games,
retaliate, pout and disconnect.
Women can smell our fear of failure and our dependence on their approval at a molecular level. They can see our one eye ball glancing around trying to avoid the discomfort of her anger and rejection.
How do
you stop doing this?
Just like the golfer and the race car driver.
Practice. Then more practice.
Just like them, you must learn the massive importance of driving your life without fear. You first have to know WHY fear is keeping you from swinging a club, driving a car and LOVING A WOMAN properly.
Once you know this and believe this, you
can choose to change it.
Just like in the book "The Art of Racing in the Rain" (great book, by the way), when you first experience the confidence of driving with your wheels sliding through a turn, you will drive better and faster than everyone around you.
And it will look like MAGIC to everyone watching. Nobody will know that the reason you make it look so effortless is because, unlike everyone else, you're not afraid of pushing the scary edge.
How would it feel to "drive" like that in your
relationship and in dating?
How magical would it look to everyone watching if you conquered your fear of being rejected, making her mad or even losing her?
How would you respond to
everything differently?
How would you use your new calm, relaxed mindset to create a more connected and passionate relationship?
This is how one guy put it yesterday in an email to
me. I do not make this stuff up. I don't have to. Scott said:
"Let's just say we broke our 2 week dry spell and it was amazing! What an intimate connection. The rest of the night we laughed and had a blast. Keeping the "Mountain Lion Mojo" in the forefront of your mind projects such an amazing energy into the world."
The only difference between you and Scott is that he committed to learning how to "drive". He is conquering his
"good guy" fears of not being liked, of being rejected and of being alone. And he's learning to drive in his relationship with a 4 tires sliding through the curves with total control - and a grin.
Do you want this? Of course you do. It will change your life.
What next? Do what Scott
did. Take ONE simple step and say "Wow, tell me more".
Click on THIS LINK and you'll be taken to an application for a personal phone call with me to talk
about the race you've been running and how you are going to move up into the pack - slowly, surely and with a grin on your face.
I only expect you to show up honestly and openly. Find a quiet spot. We will be talking for at least an hour and you will feel better at the end than you've felt all
month.
I talk even more deeply about fear and how it messes up everything in my new article this week. See the link below.
And in the video below, I'll give you a tip on how to face a really common fear men have when facing an agitated, irritable or angry woman.
