Hey,
This may seem really obvious to you and you may hate me for it.
It's like saying "Hey doc, it hurts when I do this. What should I do?"
And he says, "Well...don't do that."
Brilliant.
In the case of the chronically unhappy husband, the secret cure is the same.
Stop doing what is making you
unhappy.
But I know it's not that easy...if it was you would've done it by now.
The fact is the one thing us guys have the MOST control over, but spend the LEAST amount of time
working on is this.
It's our mindset.
While I know dozens of things you can do tonight that will make small improvements in your relationship, intimacy and sex life - none of them will matter as much as your mindset.
Mindset comes first because it's never
about what you're DOING in life and love that matters. It's who you are BEING when you do them.
I spent way too many years in the body of a man who did things to please others.
I did things to keep the peace. I didn't things with the purpose of making people like me. I did things to get along and not rock the boat.
I did things to get attention and crumbs of affection
and sex.
Happy wife - happy wife...and all that mythical crap.
It's the wrong mindset. Don't do that.
It not only guarantees you will never get what you want - it ends up making you feel horrible about yourself.
When you feel horrible about yourself you start resenting those you think are responsible for
it.
When they lose respect for you...you lose your self-confidence and self-respect.
Those are two major components of our happiness and our
mojo.
Without them, there is really nothing we can do to make our life any happier. We make bad choices and weak decisions...otherwise known as "settling".
Don't do
that.
We stay at jobs we know we should leave. We keep friends in our life who drain us of energy. And we put up with intimate relationships that aren't even close to intimate anymore.
Don't do that.
What do you do instead?
Make the very conscious, proactive and self respecting decision to get a "mojo makeover".
What's that mean?
It means getting clarity about your real power and purpose. It means reclaiming your confidence and boldness in creating a new reality.
It means getting a clear PLAN for taking the steps you need to be someone you're proud of so you can feel HAPPY about your new path.
It's not "free". I'll ask you
to invest your time, your heart and your trust. I will do the same for you. This conversation will be deep and personal and you will feel like you've been heard and understood maybe for the first time in years.
In the meantime, here's my latest article that elaborates a little on today's topic.
And I took a hike a made a quick video for you below.
