She has inappropriate "guy friends" - what do I do now?

Published: Sun, 07/03/16

Hey,


I know this isn't every man's problem.  But this month I've been having this conversation a lot.


When does your wife or girlfriend's "guy friend" become a problem for you?  


How do I know where to draw a boundary?  And if I do that, how do I defend it? What do I say if she denies everything or gets super defensive?


These types of questions indicate a deeper issue to me.


They tell me you're worried more about how she is going to react to you having a boundary.  It's possible you're more concerned with making things worse than your are with making your expectations clear.  It seems fear is driving your thoughts.


And that's a problem.  It means you may need to think deeper about your thoughts about inappropriate relationships.  


What are you values around the topic?  Why are they your values?  How strongly do you believe in them?


What scary consequences are you avoiding by speaking up for what you value and believe? What's the story of what will happen if you stand up for those values?


Do you believe your only option in this life is to quietly accept and suffer as a victim of her behavior?


In my article this week, I go deeper into this and give you some tips on how to transform from Husband 1.0 (Operating System of Fear) and Husband 2.0 (Operating System of Love).  The trick is all in your thoughts.  Change your thoughts - change your world.  So simple and yet so challenging.


I'd love to hear from you either in reply to this email or in the comments.  What sticky situations have you had with inappropriate relationships?  What did you do in response?  Click on the link below.


Am I Wrong to be Jealous of My Wife's Boyfriends?


  What to Do About Her "Boyfriends"
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These are extremely difficult discussions - I know.  But the stronger you become in your thinking and in your values, the easier everything gets.


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Lotta love, brother,

Steve


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