Hey,
Have you ever said, “Man, my marriage is in crisis.”?
Or something
similar?
Like, “I’ve got a troubled relationship.” Or “My sex life is sucking.”
We say stuff like that all the time but
there’s a problem with it.
The problem is that it puts you squarely on the outside of the problem looking in. It’s like you’re a spectator of the crisis, the trouble or the sucking sex life.
It makes you fold your arms and shake your head and say, “Damn, somebody better DO something about that!”
I don’t believe there’s any such thing as a “marriage in
crisis”.
The crisis always lies within the two people in the marriage. The crisis is how you have chosen to respond – to think, speak and act toward each other. The crisis isn’t out of your control. You only think it is.
Why?
Because it’s just too damn inconvenient to think any other way! It’s human nature to avoid feeling responsible. It’s scary to take ownership of your role
in the situation and your power to change your future. Believe me, I understand.
A marriage in crisis is not a surprise. You’ve both seen it coming for a long time. Am I right?
So what can you do now that you’re about to accept some ownership for the perceived crisis and the future you really want?
Forget about trying to fix it. Don’t even try to save it.
It won’t happen. Can’t do it.
You can only “save yourself”.
That’s the best and easiest place to
start. And it’s the only chance you have to reverse a relationship that's in a death spiral.
Will it work?
There is no way to
know and you can’t even care about that. And here's the important thing.
If you are overly invested and attached to the result of saving your marriage when you decide to first save yourself, you will certainly fail at both.
And if you don’t save yourself first, you will always see your marriage as a “crisis”. So actually...you don't have a choice. You must make the only logical decision in front of you.
I wrote more about this HERE in my latest article.
There’s a surprise ending that happens with many, many men. While it’s surprising...it's sometimes very sad. The good news is that you're going to be okay no matter what ending happens.
Read about
the surprise ending in the article:
When you’re ready to finally dive deep and learn more about what “saving yourself” really means and what it takes – send me an email.
There is so much more life, love and laughter left for you. I can’t stand the thought of you not getting it.
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