First of all, I'm sorry you have to hear my weirdly loud sniffling in this video. Cold weather makes my nose run. Who knew an iPhone microphone was so ridiculously sensitive.
Anyway, about this "wing man" stuff. This is what I want for you, me...all of us. I
want each of us to have at least one man - one friend that we know, beyond any doubt that he's got our back.
This is a guy we can trust. A man we can call anytime and know he will be there for us - no matter what. And he knows the same is true about us - we've got his
back too.
The sad thing is that men have a long history of not doing this.
We can keep people at arms length. I call it playing in
the shallow end of the pool. It's scary in the deep end, isn't it? We will only go just so deep before we retreat to "How 'bout those Broncos?" (or whatever simple-minded distraction we can create - that's my football team if you're wondering)
But if we're going to create the deeper friendships
we need with other men we must take a risk...like showing not just what we think, but what we feel.
This may sound weird, but it's just like I tells guys who are dating. You will never surround yourself with high quality, deep thinking and feeling, high value people if YOU don't allow them to see you
FIRST.
You and I both know that is who you are. So quit hiding it. Be bold and unashamed. If you already have a close friend, step it up. Take more initiative. Be more intentional. Schedule times to hang out and support each other.
As I type this, I know I need to take my own advice. All of us can "up our game" and be better friends with the men who count in our lives.
And if you are like thousands of men who don't have any high quality male friends in your life, it's
now time for you to practice. With the way most of us have been conditioned, it doesn't feel natural to us.
Practice means getting involved. Sharing your time. Your thoughts. Your talents. And your positive energy.
Join a men's group or a men's meetup. Reconnect with a father, brother, uncle or grandfather. Think about who you know that you admire and want to get to know better. No, it's not weird. It's weird that us guys may THINK it's weird.
And here's the announcement I promised about an upcoming opportunity I'm creating for you to connect with super high quality men.
I've launched a new, extremely private and exclusive online men's group.
This is a "forum style" gathering of men, but much, much more than some public internet playground for guys with a chip on their shoulder. It's a secure support group - a brotherhood where we are safe to dig deep into ANYTHING going on in your life.
This will be a special source of high value friendships, feedback, advice, support, encouragement and professional coaching from me.
To make sure that only trustworthy, like-minded, "initiated" men are in the group only pre-qualified members will be invited to
join.
For the next month, I've invited 10 men from my Fort Collins Men's meetup (Men, Marriage and Sex) to come into the group. We are going to quietly launch the group, give it a name we like and then slowly open it up to others soon. There will be an affordable monthly subscription required to
join.
Stay tuned. You will be the first to know when I begin the process of qualifying new members.
Until then, I'd like to invite you to a conversation with me - no charge.
If you are thinking about reaching out for some private support and encouragement, we need to talk. It was interesting to watch more inquiries than usual come my inbox over the holidays. It's a stressful time, I get it.
If you still have that nagging feeling of being stuck, uncertain, unfocused and are afraid to take action or make a decision, then it's time to do something different.
Here's my suggestion for you. Fill out this form to get
the ball rolling and quit hiding out. Here your link. Click it and get going.
Stay strong, brother.
I’ll see you in the next video.
Lotta love,
Steve
