I want to share some quotes I heard from men this week.
“It all become clear for me today – like a switch just flipped. It’s unbelievable. I realized what I
need to do now.” (R.F. somewhere really cool in Europe)
“I finally see the futility in trying to control how she responds to me. My power is in how I respond to her and everything.” (M.F. heartland USA)
This week I’ve had two more men reach that “light switch” stage.
This is where something finally clicks
with you that makes all of your struggles make sense.
This is the point where you finally SEE things differently than ever before and a calm, confidence overcomes you. This is where you finally stop freezing in conversations with people and your thoughts and words flow more easily for
you.
You find out that after all your reading, videos and podcasts there is something you’ve been missing.
Right before the switch flips you are still looking at your life and relationship as things that are happening to you.
You’ve been looking at people who seem to have total confidence and you’ve been trying to figure how to ACT more like them. You’ve been studying Red Pill vs. Blue pill
theory and Alpha vs. Beta man concepts. You’ve been thinking that if you just channeled a little more THAT crap, your wife or kids or boss just might respond better to you.
But they never do, do they? Why is that?
It’s because they can see that you still give a crap how they respond to you.
You’re STILL giving them the power to make your day a good one or a bad one. You’ve been acting like a man of personal value and power instead of just BEING one.
It’s actually a GOOD idea to think
about a role models like Jesus, John Wayne, your Dad or whoever you want to emulate. It’s good to think about the values, confidence and energy you admire. But don’t be a mimic. Don’t just parrot stuff you read and hear.
Do the work to build your own self-respect. Get CLEAR on why other
people could be admiring YOU. Nail down the standards and boundaries that drive the way you think, speak and act.
And the very next thing you’ll learn in this journey is that what other people think of you, your values and your desires doesn’t freaking matter. What’s more, you’ll learn that THEY
don’t want it to matter. They don’t want the burden of seeing you react to their opinion of you.
Here’s what they DO want?
They want to
FEEL your crystal clear confidence in yourself and what you believe. They want to feel safe and comfortable with your calm, deliberate and pleased ability to live in your own skin.
They want to experience your gentle compassion coupled with you non-negotiable sense of purpose.
They want to see that your happiness is driven by how well you’re living in alignment with YOUR values and NOT by what other people are or aren’t giving you.
How do you get
there? How do get that switch to flip?
It happens automatically when you do enough work with other initiated men.
Man to man coaching is NOT therapy. This is NOT a deep dive into your past
to dissect all the excuses we ALL have for feeling insecure or inadequate.
This about finally seeing the truth about TWO THINGS:
- How YOU have been showing up as a
man
- How you have created a space that has allowed anyone else to make you feel abused, emasculated, disrespected, ignored, unwanted or betrayed.
I’m assuming the men you admire never complain about how badly others make them feel.
That’s because they’ve figured out how to BE a man who expects and deserves better for himself. He’s embodied a set of personal standards and boundaries that drive the way he thinks and feels. He’s created a new mindset and masculine frame that communicates to everyone what he expects OF himself and FOR himself.
And his calm, non-negotiable energy is unmistakable and, by the way, incredibly attractive.
THAT’s where you go when the “light switch”
flips.
It’s designed specifically for the guy who is ready to “flip his switch” and grab his balls back and live the life he’s always wanted.
Stay strong, brother.
I’ll see you in the next video.
Lotta love,
Steve
P.S. In my last email I teased you about a NEW way to begin this work and connect with other high-quality, initiated men. In a few days I'll be sending you the announcement about an exclusive, private, invitation-only opportunity to learn the ropes from men who have BEEN
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