Hey,
Here is a really
quick tip and a reminder about the holidays and your MOJO.
The coming weeks will be full of fun, commitments, parties, obligations and financial stress.
Even in the midst of the good
cheer there is stress and uncertainty.
Many women become tense, hyper-focused, stressed and emotionally triggered. They can feel scrutinized and judged for how "perfect" everything is...the meal, the kids, the house, etc.
Predictably, they might project all those feelings on to you.
What should you do?
A lot of guys will cope by removing themselves from the
chaos, or worse start a fight. We might disappear or make up a reason to escape to the garage - or hang with the boys - or just sit and watch football.
Here's my tip.
You're on the
right track by leaning into your masculine CALM, DELIBERATE and PLEASED mojo. This is cool and absolutely necessary. Don't absorb the chaos and stress as your own and REACT to it.
Stay focused on what needs to be done. Stay engaged. Stay supportive. Empathize with and accept the stress she feels without feeling like
you must share in it. Don't ask a bunch of questions and don't criticize her feelings.
Don't just ask what you can do to help. Open your eyes and see what needs to be done. Then do it. How can you help organize things or get stuff done that will reduce the stress?
Helping her relax is your #1 focus. This doesn't always mean trying to distract her from the chores. More often it means helping her feel like you two are a connected, well-oiled team that gets shit done.
THAT is how she
can relax on her own.
Comprende, Amigo?
As you go through the holidays, think about yourself and your journey. Are you committed to creating the life and love you want? Or are
you just waiting to see what happens?
A brother who has worked with me for almost a year said this to me on our last call.
"I was down to my last nickel when I first called you.
For some reason I decided to spend my last dollar on getting serious about working on myself and changing my life and relationship. Who would have thought I'd be where I am right now - clear, strong, happy and about to close the deal of the century."
I know the feeling. It's mojo. It's clarity.
It's confidence.
It's like a York Peppermint Patty on steroids.
Happy Thanksgiving and lotta love,
brother,
Steve
P.S. Go here to read more about my program and to set up a free mentoring call.
Buckle in. It's a wild ride.
