This is for men who are wondering what the hell to do next in their struggling relationship.

This is the cold, hard, hair raising, knotted gut and indisputable truth about why you probably won’t ever have the relationship you want with the woman you’re with right now.

This is true for 100% of the men I work with and 100% of those I don’t.  And, if you’re wondering, yes – this is gender reversible in many cases.  But not all of them.

It doesn’t matter if you’re married to her or not.  Your current struggles and hurt feelings are the direct result of one thing.

You’re afraid to leave her.

I'm not saying you should leave her.  I'm not saying you might need to leave her.  And I'm not saying you should start thinking about leaving her.

I'm saying that you need to face your underlying, unspoken fear about losing her in order to take the actions which create more respect, more love and more connection with her - or any woman.

It is fear that is keeping you from taking those actions.

Why You are Afraid to Leave Her

This is what men tell me.  The idea of leaving her makes you want to cry and it makes your heart quiver.

Why?

1. You’re afraid of being alone.
2. You’re afraid of feeling rejected.
3. You’re afraid of feeling inadequate or like a failure.
4. You’re afraid of losing your current identity.
5. You’re afraid of seeing her with anyone else.
6. You’re afraid of never loving someone again.
7. You’re afraid of making her mad.
8. You’re afraid of hurting her feelings.

Am I right?  Yes, I am.

I can be cocky now because I’ve been through ALL of this before in my own marriage.  And I can help you now.

You need your mojo back.  Mojo is a man who is calm, deliberate and pleased with himself  (I stole that from a great man named Sean Stephenson).  Mojo is a man who feels strong, clear and confident in himself, what he wants, what he values and where he is going – with or without the woman standing in front of him.

I’m talking about mojo – not “macho”.

Is it normal for a man to FEEL all those things?  Hell yes!  Is it acceptable for a man to admit to being afraid.  Absolutely!  Vulnerability is healthy and, actually, kind of hot to most women.

But…

If a man allows his fear and vulnerability to KEEP HIM FROM TAKING POSITIVE ACTION, he is screwed.  He’s screwed NOT JUST IN THIS RELATIONSHIP, but everywhere else in his life.

He is screwed because living in fear without positive action puts all of your control and all of your outcomes in the hands of others.

And when it comes to women, they hate that.

Why it’s Impossible to LOVE Her Right Now

It’s impossible to properly love your woman when you live in fear and cannot take action.

Why?

1. Your fear and inaction is hard to respect.  You appear weak.
2. Your fear and inaction make her feel uncertain and unsafe.
3. Your fear and inaction are uninspiring and unattractive.
4. Your fear and inaction put pressure on her that makes her move away from you and toward others.
5. Your fear and inaction make you focus SOLELY on what you’re not getting from her.
6. Your fear and inaction make you think, speak and act in whiny and needy ways.
7. Your fear and inaction make you look (and feel) selfish and narcissistic.
8. Your fear and inaction make impossible for you to GIVE her your authentic, no strings attached love.

A woman cannot properly experience the love, respect and affection you have to offer if it is all coming from a place of scarcity, fear and inaction.

What Should a Man Do to Change This and His Whole Life?

He needs a new direction.  A new mindset.  And a new picture of his future.

He needs other men who have already figured this out to help him understand and face those false fears keeping him stuck in inaction.

He needs to COMMIT less to his relationship desires and more to himself and his own growth and maturity.

He needs to be MORE FOCUSED on becoming the kind of man who gets what he wants than he is on defending the man who is getting NOTHING he wants.

He wants to become that man more than he wants the results he currently craves.

Here is a free report to help you get started.  Read the whole thing twice.  Go off by yourself for a while.  Take notes.

The Hard-to-Swallow Truth About Saving Your Marriage.

Then immediately start looking for men, men’s groups, men’s retreats or men’s coaches to help you start moving your ship off the sandbar it’s stuck on.

Seriously.  You don’t to stay there any longer.

And neither does the woman in your life.  (Yes, I’ve spoken with her already)

Lotta love, brother,

Steve

(970)484-8241

P.S. If this rattled your cage a little, sorry.  But you're in good, safe company.  You'll be fine if you stay focused.