This is a man who is starting to get clear and confident about who he is and what he wants.
He's learning his boundaries. He’s standing up for himself.
It’s a beautiful thing to see.
And here’s the most important part. I know you can relate to this.
He loves her dearly.
He’s adores her drive, intelligence and her fire. That’s what attracted him to her since day one. And it still does, except when it’s driving him up the wall.
He wants to spend his life with her and
learn to love deeper with her.
But he’s done taking her crap. No more putting up with ugly, destructive behavior.
He’s not angry with her as much as he’s angry at himself for allowing it.
The 16 yr. old little boy inside him has been showing up WAY too often.
You know that little guy, right? We ALL have one.
He’s the one who wants to defend himself by arguing. He’s the one who takes everything personally. And he’s the one who tries to make everything better by kissing ass and being a “good boy”.
Here is what “Mark” sent me the other day:
“I’ve realized that I can’t successfully live anymore EXPECTING favors from her. I have to be like John Wayne.
I have to do what I need to do with only the expectations I have for me. I can't be her kiss-ass anymore.”
Mark is learning that it’s IMPOSSIBLE to properly love a woman if you’re too busy
kissing her ass.
A woman can't be in the strong, accepting, respectful and passionate relationship you want if you're jumping through hoops to get her to be strong, accepting, respectful and passionate.
She can’t feel the emotional safety and attraction she desires if all she feels is the pressure of manipulation to get something from her in return.
She wants a man who chooses to be strong, accepting, respectful
and passionate – without expectations or conditions.
She wants to know this is who he will BE…with her or without her. More importantly, HE needs to know that about himself.
The lesson?
A woman feels more safe, trusting and attracted to a man who is in control of himself than one she can control.
Kind of blows your mind, doesn’t it?
It’ll blow your mind and change your life.
You will look back and laugh at the old you.
You’ll be kind of like John Wayne – only better.
