Hey,
There is a simple math equation that is really accurate in predicting your current potential and your future success.
It goes like
this.
Take the 5 people with whom you spend the MOST time.
You are the average of those five people.
I told you it was simple. But it tends to be
true.
If those 5 people, on average, tend to be negative and non-supportive, you’re not going anywhere fast.
If those 5 people, on average, are coasting through each day and settling for a mediocre life then you will too.
Now imagine 5 good friends who are highly charged, optimistic people whose idea of fun is continually challenging themselves and you to reach higher. You will have no choice but to lead a more energized life where reaching your goals feels easy.
And if you’re that guy, some people will call you lucky. But you’re not lucky, you just
know how to pick your friends.
The Three Types of Friends
In his book, “Get Off Your But”, Sean Stephenson wrote a chapter which he referred to as one of his hardest realizations.
Some people don’t belong in your life.
And it’s up to you to remove them.
Harsh. I know. Read on.
He explains that he thought this was ridiculous at first. He didn’t cave in to peer pressure. He was an adult who did what he wanted.
He writes, “Then I began doing some research and paying attention to my life and that of others. What
I discovered shocked me. In fact, we become EXACTLY like those we hang out with most. Just as goldfish swimming in a tank of diseased water inevitably becomes sick, a human hanging out in a toxic peer group eventually becomes toxic. When you place yourself in an environment, you eventually become the environment. It’s inevitable.”
He wrote about “A” friends, “B”
friends, and “C” friends. Sean explains:
A Friends: They help you be a better person. They hold you accountable to better choices and being honest with yourself. They inspire you and support you in your goals. They will drop anything they are doing if you need help. They consider your feelings before saying or doing anything. They
are the hardest to find.
B Friends: Most of our friends fall into this category. Sometimes they are like A Friends and sometimes they are like C Friends. They may be nice to your face, but stab you in the back when you’re not around. They will help you if it’s convenient. These friends tend to sort themselves out and eventually either step up into A Friends
or they never get it are bumped to the C Friend list.
C Friends: They are “extreme takers, energy drainers and destroyers” according to Sean. Don’t walk away…RUN away from them. Anytime you hang around with them your quality of life will slip. Constant exposure can ruin you.
Why am sharing this important information with you?
Because I've learned that you must have "A Friends" if you are going to achieve the transformation and success you want.
This includes seeing the major improvements
you want in your marriage, sex life, and work.
A man with A Friends is a man with a plan.
A man with A Friends respects himself enough to exclude the takers and drainers from his life.
A man
with A Friends immediately starts finding OTHER A Friends.
A man with A Friends allows others to push him toward his goals...toward his greatness.
How are you doing in your search for A Friends?
Are
you surrounded by B Friends and just coasting?
Or, do you have some C Friends who are draining you and holding you back?
And my commitment is to be the same for him. Forever.
It’s not a one-way
street. When you join my program, you become an incredible source of support, encouragement and inspiration for me. And I appreciate that more than I can say.
I just want to see you take one step in the right direction.
It’s where us A Friends hang out. Join the brotherhood and instantly gain access to the wisdom of a BUNCH of A Friends.
Lots of love,
Steve
