Last Saturday, the young lady cutting my hair was curiously poking at a strange looking bump on my
scalp.
My receding hairline wasn’t hiding it any longer. I noticed it a few months ago when it was smaller and I immediately decided to ignore it. Typical for me.
She asked in a very motherly voice, “When are you going to the doctor to have it looked at?”. I told her my appointment for my annual physical was coming up on July 6th.
I felt good that I already had an appointment and avoided any further scolding. But, I didn’t mention that I totally skipped my physical last year. I would have had no decent explanation for that. And I would have felt that familiar shame of being…
A procrastinator
Can you relate?
Do you have a never ending list of things to do that sometimes overwhelms you?
Do you ever feel guilty or bad about yourself for not getting the things done you want to get done?
Do you get gentle reminders (or not so gentle reminders) from the woman in your life that you’re slacking off? Does she express disappointment when she feels you are not being engaged, responsible or productive?
Is she really a nagging control freak or does she actually have a good point?
My point is that YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
Every one of us has various degrees of dysfunction when it come to getting sh*t done.
The important thing to figure out is what sh*t is important to YOU to get done. We can get overwhelmed with what other people expect from us and run around like crazy trying to check off enough things to keep them happy.
But what about your expectations? What do you want to accomplish?
Why are these important to you?
I’ve found that until we get clear on what we expect from ourselves and why, it’s nearly impossible to feel like we’re in control. We are just reacting. Just getting to the “low hanging fruit.”
Just pleasing others.
Want to know a secret about why I had already scheduled my physical exam?
Another guy held me accountable. And you know who you are B.F. Thanks, buddy. (B.F. was the man, a few months ago, who called me out for
pretending to be from his home town of Pasadena, MD. Who would fake that? He found my high school picture, apologized, and signed up. He is doing great!)
We were on a call and we agreed to hold each other accountable for
one of the important things on each of our lists. His was finishing his deck project. Mine was finally scheduling a doctor’s appointment.
We both talked about why these were important to us. Both got
done.
This is just one benefit from having other men in your life. We need each other and we need mentors to push us – to challenge us to grow.
And sometimes it’s YOU who pushes me back. I appreciate you for that!
You help me be my "best self". I want to do the same for you.
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Yeah, it’s intense.
And, yeah, it’s worth it.
