Hey,
Well, these are two separate events actually.
Let me explain. It’s a good story about D.B. from Florida and his journey from good guy to great man.
We worked together for quite a while on what appeared to
be the end of his marriage.
Side note: Why do we wait so friggin’ long to ask for help? Another topic, sorry.
D.B. was struggling hard with himself, his future ex-wife and a few terrific kids who were watching the whole thing unfold. Yes. It sucked.
His marriage had turned into something that wasn’t meant to be. He was beating himself up and worked really hard at getting his head
on straight.
We made lemonade with the lemons he’d been served.
Divorce is as good a time as any to work
on becoming a stronger man of value, conviction and COMPASSION. So is marriage, by the way.
That’s exactly what D.B. chose to do.
He lead his family through the painful process of divorce. But he chose to be a consistent source of integrity and honor all along the way. He made the very best of a bad situation and tried to protect the hearts of his kids. Oddly, even during divorce he grew closer with them.
And, as I predicted, D.B.’s
ex-wife approached him with the idea of reconciliation... in the courtroom, no less.
This happens ALL THE TIME. Some of you know exactly what I’m talking about.
When a man gets so bold and clear about who he wants to be and how he wants to live … he becomes magnetic. Even to ex-wives.
But this kind of clarity may also lead a man to choosing to move on. And that's what D.B.
did.
We continued working. D.B. started trying out post-divorce dating and practiced staying in the “bold and clear” zone. He met quite a few women. But he was clear about the type of woman he wanted.
Many of them didn’t meet his standards for the relationship he was now demanding for himself. He wanted raw honesty, openness, vulnerability, trust, respect, appreciation, love and passion. He was prepared to give it.
Then he found it in Alana. Compared to ALL of the other women he met, he said, “She was a whole other ballgame.” And not far into their dating Alana said the same to D.B.
D.B. had attracted an amazing, evolved, loving and spiritual
woman.
How?
He had become that same kind of man. And she couldn’t help but notice.
When I
received my electronic photograph of a wedding invitation, I said “I just might show up.”
This is what D.B. said in response:
“Thanks, man! If you were to just show up I'd give you a hug and kiss on the cheek, find you a chair, pour you a beer from a keg of handcrafted microbrew and probably publicly thank you for helping me put the finishing touches on becoming the man I wanted/needed to be to get into a great relationship.”
Unfortunately, I can’t make the wedding. I’m going to miss that handcrafted microbrew.
Sniff.
Lots of love, brother,
Steve
P.S. I don’t tell these stories to build myself up to you. I want these stories to
create a STIR inside you. I want YOU to build yourself up. Whether you’re married or soon to be single, you deserve what D.B. has. He has the knowledge that he can create the life he wants with an amazing woman. He’s a man who gets that kind of stuff. You can be that guy too.
