Hey,
Some wives hate me.
They complain about the content of some of my emails and even lodge formal complaints.
But they don’t unsubscribe. They keep reading week after week.
Why?
Because they know I’m right.
The ONE REASON they may hate me is because they know that every single thing I teach men about stepping up, taking responsibility, being accountable, learning and leading applies exactly the same to them.
Great women see this clearly and choose to join their man in the process of rebuilding respect, trust, acceptance and intimacy.
They see that their power to give love and receive love is totally within their control. And when they use this power around a man who is doing the same thing…some really amazing things happen.
But for some women, that’s a lot to ask. It’s too vulnerable. It’s scary and it’s a lot of work.
They are waiting for HIM to go first.
Guess what?
Taking a stand is
scary.
Stating what you want and what you expect is scary.
Uncertainty about your future is
scary.
But in my humble (but accurate) opinion, NOTHING is scarier than standing still. Not making any decision and living the next 30 years with zero change is horrifying to me.
And it’s horrifying to the guys who decide to work with me. But they do it anyway.
And it is always an amazing, eye opening journey.
I just got
this email yesterday from a great man who allowed me to "travel" with him for 12 weeks. I love this guy. His attitude, confidence, energy and sense of humor changed in the time we spent together and I get bleary eyed thinking about what a cool person he is. He inspires me.
And so does his wife.
"I am a 50 year old man with one failed marriage on my way to another. This part of my life was frustrating me as I have successful career, have the confidence and ability to make dozens of decisions everyday yet when I came home all that disappeared and I could not wait to get back to work the next day. I read countless books on how to act
and what I should be doing, and how a marriage should be, but I could never move forward.
I was stuck in an endless cycle of a couple of good days and then something would happen and we would go back to square one with
more bitterness and resentment.
I stumbled upon Steve’s site and read all the articles and signed up to receive emails. I finally decided to contact Steve when my wife started talking about her next “husband” and how
she couldn’t wait to move on.
Steve got me in "the boat" and helped me by letting me know I was not alone. There were other men having the same problems I was. Steve shared with me his own life experiences (he
has been there), held me accountable for my actions, guided me on how to speak with my wife and taught me what she wanted from me and our relationship.
Changing my behavior, getting my wife on board and getting
through her challenges was scary stuff, but knowing Steve was there with advice, love and understanding gave me the confidence to push through.
This is a life long journey and even though things are better (and getting
better every day) there are still times where my wife and I don’t see eye to eye.
Instead of letting these disagreements set us back, I think about what I learned from Steve and see the problem for what it really is.
It’s my “17 year old boy” reacting to her “15 year old girl”. Treating my wife with love and respect, and demanding that she does the same with me has helped us grow as a couple. If you are truly ready to grow as a man contact Steve right now. You will not be disappointed. Tons of love Brother!" ~ B.G., New York
Great work, buddy. I'm so happy for you and that great woman in your life!
Lots of love to ya,
Steve
