Hey,
No. Not THAT "P" word.
I'm
talking about when she calls you a PERVERT.
It's happened at least once, right?
Happens to me all the
time. Not out in public mind you, but often enough in the context of my romantic relationship.
In the "old days" I used to get all worked up and offended by it. I'd go for a kiss, a team shower, squeeze a cheek or dance naked in the
hallway. Then I'd hear it.
Pervert!
What?! I was just being
affectionate. Just having some fun. I'm not a pervert - am I?
Even if it was meant as a joke, I'd get my feelings all hurt and then pout and whine about how rejected I felt. Then I'd commence to retaliate with a barrage of
comments attacking her lack of libido and her cold, prude heart.
That never seemed to help much.
These days I have a new outlook and that's what I want to share with you.
Being called a pervert doesn't bother me one bit.
Why?
Because I'm not a pervert. Who says? I do, dammit. And that's all that matters.
If I want to dance naked, I do. If I want
to admire two perfect butt cheeks with my hands, I do. If I want to initiate something "fun" at an odd hour of the day, I do.
And you should too. Why?
Because there is nothing perverted about a man loving his woman.
There is nothing perverted about having HUGE respect for your partner while you're appreciating her finer assets.
There is nothing perverted about feeling so accepted and emotionally safe that you can dance naked down the hallway anytime you feel like it.
And when I hear the cry, "You little pervert!" my favorite response is:
"Yeah, well, I'm YOUR little pervert.
Congratulations!"
What's the lesson here?
- Don't give a flip about what others think. It's what YOU think that matters.
- If it feels good, do it.
- In a relationship filled with acceptance and emotional safety, there is no such thing as "perversion".
It was #3 that turned the light on for me and for tons of other guys I know.
Sure you do.
Pervert.
Use the contact box on my site to set up a phone call. The last guy who did said he got more out an hour with me than he did in 6 weeks of marriage counseling.
Or if you have an urgent question or concern, hit reply. I'll answer you back with a day, normally.
Lots of love,
Steve
