Hey,
Don’t you just love it when she says what you’ve been thinking, but didn’t want to bring up?
Doesn’t it feel incredible just to know that she feels comfortable talking about sex with you and admitting that she misses it too?
Isn’t it fantastic when you both finally clear your heads and your to-do lists and grin…then you look into each other’s eyes KNOWING you’re about to make up
for lost time in the romance department?
You DO know what that’s like – right?
No?
Yeah, me neither. I spent over 25 years not knowing what that was like.
In fact, I grew to believe it was totally UNREASONABLE to think I could expect a
life like that. I believed only lucky men had that relationship with a very small percentage of women who could be like that.
What about you? Do you believe as I did?
Has your relationship become so routine – so tactical – so domestic that you believe this is as good as it gets? Do you feel sentenced to a life of weekend chores, work, and half-hearted kisses goodnight?
Do you think she LIKES
getting lost in her to-do list? Do you believe she really thinks everything and everyone else in her life is more important than you?
Have you convinced yourself that your wife or girlfriend is satisfied with the current situation and really isn’t all that interested in romance, flirting, foreplay or
sex?
Brace yourself. I was wrong about ALL of this.
And so are you. Why?
As Esther Perel says in her book, “Mating in Captivity”, the big reasons couples find themselves in the situation I described is because:
- They don’t understand the difference between domestic energy and erotic energy in
their relationship.
- Even if they DO understand it, they have no clue about how to rekindle erotic energy and maintain a healthy balance in their relationship.
- Both are waiting for the other to figure this out.
The
result?
A 25 year stalemate.
Have you found yourself moping, complaining, criticizing, arguing, fighting and/or avoiding
each other? The reason for this is frequently the result of a relationship that is badly out of balance. Both partners feel stuck. They are on a never ending hamster wheel of routine, responsibility, dependability, accountability…and blinding boredom. In other words, domestic energy.
Is this important energy? Of course it is. It’s what gets bills paid, kids off to school, carpets cleaned, and dishes put away. The problem is that domestic energy is EASY. Almost everything on the domestic to-do list is both urgent and important. These things ALWAYS seem to get done no matter what.
And they get done so frequently and
predictably that you FORGET about balance. You forget (or don’t know) about the importance of erotic energy. We think that erotic energy is supposed to be the EASY part. No work required. Just hug, kiss, grope, get horny, have sex…lather, rinse, repeat. Right?
Wrong
again.
You must know more about what erotic energy REALLY is and how it is created – intentionally. You must know how to initiate and sustain it. You must know about why women CRAVE erotic energy and the mystery, danger, surprise and tension that live there. And you must
understand the truth about why they don't initiate it very often.
Did I mention it took me over 25 years to figure this out?
And
it wasn’t by reading a book. It was by spending high-quality time with other men who could not only explain it to me, but SHOW me what it means.
They helped me learn the HOW part of being a man who gets this stuff.
These same men challenged me to let go of my stupid beliefs and baggage about myself, women and erotic energy. I learned it doesn't have anything to do with being a "real man". It's about getting REAL about what she needs from your masculinity and how GOOD it feels to give it to her.
Here’s my shameless offer.
Call me to talk and then possibly sign up for my mentoring program. If you want to improve the balance and bring MORE erotic energy to your relationship, my process
is designed to do just that.
I get no greater satisfaction than helping men like you figure this out and add this incredibly important tool to your skill set. You absolutely need it NOW in your current relationship – or your next one. I know that sounds ominous – but I’m a reality
guy.
Once a man gets this tool under his belt it can start a whole new relationship (some call it their 2nd marriage) of closeness, trust, respect and passion.
However, sometimes his new confidence and commitment to a new way of living scares the crap out of his woman. This is where you might need extra help in knowing how to keep her fear low and trust high.
More often than not, in a few weeks I will get an
email from you that sounds like the one I got two days ago.
“I grinned and gave her a big, hard hug and she actually leaned into me. She didn’t hug me, but she leaned into me. She hasn't done that since we have been sleeping in separate
beds."
I don't even have to explain to you what that felt like. One step at a time. That how it's done.
Let’s do this. I want this and much more for you as soon as possible.
Lots of love, brother,
Steve
