Hey,
(Yeah, that's me above in my "70's hair glory" some of you asked to see)
I want to give you one of the most important secrets I know about relating to women and building trust.
Actually, it applies everywhere - with everyone.
Ready? Drum
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Just show yourself.
That’s it.
In the most vulnerable, honest and authentic way you
can, just show yourself as the imperfect human you are.
Admit to your weaknesses. Stake your claim to being work in progress.
Know what you’re working on and how you plan to improve.
Don’t defend yourself when you know you can do better.
Commit to working harder and being even better. Share your dreams of who you are becoming and invite her to join you in that
journey.
Do it shamelessly!
Apologize for making mistakes but NOT for being imperfect.
This is exactly what I had to do today and it was embarrassing and
massively uncomfortable for me.
I can normally do it easily with women, but in this case it wasn’t a woman.
It was with one of you.
I missed a scheduled
call with a client 3 days ago!
Inexcusable. Forgot to put it in my calendar. Didn’t get a reminder. Spaced it out. Dropped the ball. Let him down.
I’m still suffering some shame that I wasn’t the “perfect guy’s guy” everybody can count on. Surprise – I’m not perfect.
That’s all I could say. I screwed up and I WILL do better. During our first call I challenged him to step up his accountability for keeping his word and following through. Now it’s HIS turn to give ME a well-deserved kick in the ass.
This is what we do.
We hold ourselves to higher standards and surround ourselves by other men who are doing the same.
We hold each other accountable while we accept each other’s imperfections. We help wherever we can
help.
We show ourselves and ask for help when we need it. We expose our delicate underbellies and roll up our sleeves. No shame.
We do it FIRST for ourselves. Then we show it to the men and women we love and respect.
Why is it a secret?
Because 95% of all men don’t know about it, understand it, or implement it.
I’m so grateful to be hanging with you and the other 5 Percenters in this club.
With tons of love and respect,
Steve
P.S. Is there anything in YOUR life you want to reveal? What are your imperfections? What would you MOST like to improve in the next 6 months? Call me to talk about the ONE THING you’re going to change for the better this week. (yes, I'll call you back)
