Does it feel like a sucker punch in the gut? Yes, it does.
Does it unleash tears that gush like Old Faithful? Yes.
Can a man feel this bad and STILL feel joyous, grateful, and confident?
Absolutely.
This is the story of a broken-hearted man who survived the painful end of a long term relationship and THEN entered an exciting new chapter with an incredible woman. She was quite a bit younger than he was, but compassionate, affectionate, loving and wise beyond her years. She was magnetized to his calm confidence and
strong values.
They had an effortless, romantic and passionate relationship.
Last week she told him she couldn’t go on.
She told him he deserved someone who clearly wanted what he wanted – a long term, committed relationship. She was perfect for
him…except for that.
This wonderful woman knew what he desired was not negotiable and she respected that. She knew she had the choice to join him in what he wanted or not. And she made her
decision.
How does a man react to such news? This is what “John” sent me a few days ago.
“I've never ever thought I could meet somebody as incredible as her. But she was the one who opened the door for me. She was the very first great woman in my life and I will always appreciate and love her for showing me what true respect, admiration, caring and love can be from a person who truly cares about
me. I'll be sad for a while but I will carry even more hope into my life going forward. I got this. I know exactly what I want from relationships now and I'll never go back to anything less.”
This is called clarity. This is what every man needs in every phase of his life, or his marriage, or his divorce or every other relationship he has.
I don’t share this story to glamorize
dating new women.
I’m sharing John’s story to help you see how clarity gives you the power to respond to your current problems in ways that can drastically affect the outcome.
Clarity is King
Clarity is what helps you stand up for what you want. Knowing exactly who you are and where you’re headed is the very foundation self-respect. It allows you to feel grateful for meeting wonderful people, even if they choose not to be in your life.
Clarity keeps you from settling. Clarity helps you see your boundaries and to make no apology for having them.
Clarity allows you to give your love wildly and without
conditions because when you clearly see your own value you have nothing to lose by opening your heart.
Confidence builds as you live each day with clarity and discover that your happiness has less to
do with what happens to you than how you respond to it.
Despite his raw, painful emotions about the break-up, John knows it was for the best. He knows his own value. Maybe she will come back around in a
few years and maybe she won’t.
Maybe (probably) another amazing woman will come into his life and share his desire for a long term, committed, romantic relationship full of respect, appreciation, acceptance, support and
passion.
In any event, John will be just fine. And he knows it. And that's priceless.
How Do I Get Clarity?
Some guys get it
through reading. I have some important recommendations for you.
Some get it through their faith. A spiritual perspective can be incredibly powerful and motivating.
And some guys get clarity by working with other men. It’s nearly impossible to do this work without at least one other quality man in your life.
That’s what I do.
I guide good men with broken hearts through a
step-by-step process to get clear on their values, rebuild their confidence and self-respect and become attractive men who know how to create the love and intimacy they want.
There is no feeling like knowing another man knows your
problems, understands your fears, and totally has your back. I’ve got men like this in my life and I want the same for you.
Contact me to schedule about an hour to find out what this feels like. The sooner you start the
better.
Lots of love to ya,
Steve
P.S. I received a lot of replies to my last “survey” about sending my emails more frequently. The vote was “Yes”, more is better. So I’m going to shoot for two emails per week. Some will be shorter and sweeter – some not. I’d love to get more specific questions to help me
focus my topics on things that are burning in your mind. Don’t hesitate to send me yours.
